To be annoyed at these things or are they normal at their ages?

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My son and daughter are both dyspraxic. they both are delayed in some ways developmentally. But in other ways are pretty normal for their ages. Sometimes I find it hard to know what things are attributable to their neurological differences, and what things to be annoyed at them about.

For instance, is it typical for a 7 year old to still snatch toys off other children and tantrum over someone touching something that is "MINE"?

Is it fairly usual for a 4.5 year old to poo and wee herself once or twice every day day?

Limited experience as no 7 year I'd olds of my own but at brownies yes they do grab things (pens etc) but they also know they should share so are normally able to sort it out amongst themselves or if necessary a leader will remind them. But if it was something belonging to a particular child they wouldn't snatch but equally the owning child would be unlikely to have a massive reaction (would either ask for it back or tell a leader who would intervene)

I understand 4.5 year olds do often have accidents but once a day sounds quite a lot to me

I would say it's not normal to snatch and scream 'mine' at 7 (unless it's just to his sibling!)
It's not normal to still be having regular accidents at 4.5. Have you got any where you can go for support with these issues?

My dyspraxia boy still had accidents until he went to school (4yrs 9months) but not every day. He took a lot longer to get pooing in the toilet and not in his pants. It was like a switch at school age though, he just never did it again one day.

He's almost 10 and still has issues with snatching, touch etc. He's most probably SPD as well though and is unable to regulate his own strength, which is unfortunate for his younger brother.

Yes we have OT and physio, but to be honest I've never found they know more than you can find out on Google.

I feel so bad that I get annoyed at them for these things , what if they can't help it? But then equally you shouldn't be snatching like a toddler at 7 should you? I should tell him that?
Wow, hello grumpy pug I've never spoken to anyone else who has dyspraxic kids! My daughter had an SPD diagnosis too.

Just sometime wonder whether these thing are just relatively normal anyway ? Be good to know what others think

My SPD (we think) dd still wets herself every day and she's almost 6.
Her OT is brilliant and has much better insight than google, maybe you've been unlucky.

Yeah our OT just rolls big sausage type things over them and recommended tight clothing ( that didn't make much different) . Gave us some laminated cards about getting dressed and going to the toilet. And that's about it.

I have dyspraxia (mild) and dyslexia. The pooing is normal - I wasn't fully accident free until 8. The snatching isn't something I did but I was really, really shy and used to get very hurt when asked to share my toys. I had huge problems learning to tie shoe laces, learning how to drive, never figured out a bike. I was very bright as a child. Nearly always at the top of the class as I could memorize info easily, so my dyslexia was never diagnosed, and my dyspraxia was put down to clumsiness until I got tested earlier this year.

DS 7 has dyspraxia and low muscle tone. He is a funny and loving little boy, with occasional flashes of brilliance. But also very frustrated, angry, violent and unpredictable. He seems to me like a 3 or 4 year old in interests and cognitive ability. He has full time one to one in a mainstream school and gets full DLA. Uses a wheelchair sometimes, sometimes can trip over thin air, sometimes can run a mile. Completely inconsistent. Bites and pinches and hits and kicks other children.

DD 4 has been diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay, and physio has said likely Sensory Processing Disorder, the seeking stimulation type. She is like a young toddler in a 4 year old's body. No impulse control, constantly mouthing everything, constantly falling into things, smearing everything everywhere. Accidents in her pants every day. Breaks and eats and makes messes like a 2 year old. Bites and pinches and hits and kicks other children. Will not listen, still grabs hot cups of tea at 4, doesn't seem to know/care that they are hot! She can also be so sweet, funny and loving.

Ah ok. How is your son at listening to instructions? I think if his cognitive ability is at 3-4 then I think you would use that age, right to determine whether soiling themselves once a day is normal. It certainly is even with kids without disabilities (neice was constantly soiling herself & had no problems), so it must be especially true in dyspraxic kids. Does he also have a delay? It seems a bit worrying to me, as someone who has never met someone with severe dyspraxia so I could be wrong, that he only has the cognitive ability of a 3 year old. Is that normal? Sorry if this sounds insensitive it's really not meant to be!