Son being 'girly'

[GinAndTeaForMe]

I am keen to make sure my son grows up believing all people are of equal worth, however my Father makes comments about him doing things that he perceives as "girlie".

My Father his joking, however I feel this can be damaging and is encouraging my son to adapt to gender roles.

An example may be when may son makes a high pitched sound such as whimpering, it is referred to being girlie.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is unhelpful to my sons way of thinking?

Yes, it probably is unhelpful. YANBU

I should have mentioned my son is one year old.

Most unhelpful.

Tell him to stop it. He's stereotyping girls. The implication is they are silly and weak and your child shouldn't be so inferior. He's using it to criticise your child.

Yes because it's encouraging your son (and any girl who is in earshot) to see things associated with girls as inherently inferior.

And your father may well be "joking" but your son will no doubt hear this disparagement of girls from other people who are not joking so how is he supposed to distinguish between what is true and what is a joke?

He's 1! Girls and boys are the same at that age if you don't look in their nappy! They're just babies

This will only get worse as your son gets older so you should nip it in the bud, every time your dad makes s comment tell him not to say that around you and DS

"girlie' should never be used as a perjorative term.

Yes, reducing shrieking is something we all try to do (because high pitched shouting/whining is just exhausting) but there's no need to use terms such as this whilst going about it.

One year old?
He is a baby, being a baby?!
What does your Dad expect him to have a pipe and be popping down to the pub after a hard day playing rugby?

Xposts. He is 1 so obviously not so bad now but he won't be 1 forever and your dad won't have stopped unless you tell him.

And maybe not even then.

YANBU and it must be v annoying but I'd try not to let it get to you unless your father spends a lot of time with your ds.

Watch Billy Eliot with him!