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I haven't done anything wrong.. Yet it's all my fault

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Addictaball · 10/12/2016 17:09

I've NC. I will try too cut a long story short. The woman who gave birth too me has always been a difficult person, manipulative , plays the victim never her fault. You get where I am going.
Back in the summer, things all kicked off, tensions just built up she's started an argument and I didn't back down and defended myself for once. She did not like this. I recieved disgusting texts along the lines of I no longer deserve to call her mother, I'm never too darken her door step again. I'm a vile person, a failure, disappointment. Basically stuff a normal person wouldn't say too their worst enemy.
After them vile texts two of my siblings text stuff very similiar.
It's been peaceful up until now. I've been receiving texts off the siblings saying how I'm a bitch I haven't contacted her Im a disgrace of a daughter, I'm a horrible person keeping her GC away from her ( Even though I've got texts on my phone where she states she doesn't want too see DC and they can find her when they are older and she will fill them in on what a bitch I am)
How it's christmas time and I need too swallow my pride and apologise for the disgusting things I said instead of ruining christmas.

I'm fed up of people taking her side, saying horrible things too me without knowing my side. She hasn't been much of a "mother" although likes to put on an act of how she's amazing.

WIBU to forward all the texts I recieved to the siblings I got off her. So they've got another side. And hope they back off?
(My "mothers" word is always gospel we was taught that from a very early age)
I just want this drama too stop, I want too enjoy christmas at home with My DH and child without fear of my phone constantly going off or unexpected visitors.

OP posts:
Gingernaut · 10/12/2016 17:11

If you're non contact.

Block them.

EweAreHere · 10/12/2016 17:12

I'm not sure it would serve any point.

I would then cut ties with all of them.

Because they've jumped all over you and have been vile without even talking to you. So they can't truly be interested in what really happened.

If it makes you feel better, you could forward them on. But I suspect you'll still want to block them, change your number/contact info and move on with your life without any of them in it. They all sound dreadful.

Gingernaut · 10/12/2016 17:13

Sorry.

NC means name changed.

If you forward them, you'll simply be accused of fabricating evidence.

Stay silent. Switch your phone off for one day. Block them.

TheGruffaloMother · 10/12/2016 17:14

Going NC sounds best. Without knowing the exact situation, there's little more anyone can really advise.

HerOtherHalf · 10/12/2016 17:15

You cannot reason with unreasonable people. Just block them and forget them.

RainbowJack · 10/12/2016 17:49

Why would you not just block them Confused

You are only treated like shit because you allow it.

CruCru · 10/12/2016 17:56

I assume that the OP has had a lifetime of being treated like this so it isn't all that surprising that she hasn't blocked them.

OP - you are being harassed. It actually sounds quite frightening (you mention unexpected visitors). Keep a record of all the texts / emails and if they carry on, consider going to the police.

Hissy · 10/12/2016 18:03

You have nothing to lose

Send the hideous bitches texts to her flying monkeys

With a message that says "you want her, you can have her. Stay away from me, my family and anyone who knows me. If you can't do this, I'll hand this matter to the police. Do not contact me again.

Get a new number and leave the old one to gather evidence and absolutely call the police on them.

The only reason I'm saying to reply is to make sure they have been officially informed that they are not to contact you again. It's important as it helps you protect yourself against harassment

PopcornBits · 10/12/2016 18:11

Don't bother forwarding the messages, they're just her flying monkeys and they will continue to twist it all and try to down play what she said in texts to you to make it seem not so bad.

I would say block them, but if it was me, I would send a nice fuck off to all of them and then block ;)

No contact going forward. Do not ever engage again with any of them no matter how much they try to hoover you back in, return all cards and gifts via mail on special occasions accept no contact.
Good luck.

Rainydayspending · 10/12/2016 19:39

I fall on the forwarding the texts side. I'd forward them. With a simple "this is why I have gone non contact with mother I'd rather not discuss this any further. Any further insults from you will be treated as harassment".
If they don't apologise or try to build a relationship separately they are actually not a loss. You need adults around you not these lackeys.

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