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AIBU to be so angry about blatant flouting of 48hr sickness rules?!?

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giddywithglee · 09/12/2016 13:57

I happen to know that a child in DS's nursery class threw up yesterday morning. Imagine my surprise to see said child at the school play this morning and, to my horror, holding DS's hand!

It's DS1's bday this weekend and he has a jam-packed celebration weekend planned so I'm now panicking about sickness.

I mentioned it to the teacher at pick-up (in a nice way) and she told me that they knew the child had been ill but made an exception to the 48hr rule as it was the nativity.

AIBU for being really cross about this?!

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WannaBe · 09/12/2016 13:59

I think it depends TBH. If a child has thrown up just once then it's unlikely the same kind of bug as if a child has e.g. Been throwing up all night. DS' first primary had a rule that if the child had only thrown up once then only 24 hours was sufficient.... And sickness bugs weren't rife within that school.

musicinspring1 · 09/12/2016 14:00

I get cross about this too OP. Neighbour told me at school gate yesterday her DD had been throwing up all morning and then I saw her going in to school this morning! And she's complained to me that this is the second bout of sickness her dd has had recently. It's because people don't adhere to the 48 hour rule!!!!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 09/12/2016 14:00

Children are sick for all kinds of reasons, not just sickness bugs.

DD1 is like me, vomits if she is overtired or goes too long without eating- can't keep her off school because she didn't eat breakfast.

Your son could pick up a bug from absolutely anywhere, if it is a bug the other kids has he'll have already come into contact with it yesterday so too late to worry really.

user1480946351 · 09/12/2016 14:01

YABU. 48 hrs for ANY vomiting incident is ridiculous. There are many reasons a kid can vomit that are not contagious and are no concern of yours.

SheldonsSpot · 09/12/2016 14:03

I think there's a difference between throwing up once because the child's breakfast didn't sit well in his tum/he ran to school and jiggled his breakfast around too much/basically it was a one off, compared to a sickness bug.

But yeah, I wouldn't be best pleased at that child then being paired up to hold hands with DS.

GoodGirlGoneWrong · 09/12/2016 14:12

My dc2 is asthmatic and when has a bad chest can cough so much they are sick, nothing to do with a bug. I wouldn't keep off for that. When dc2 started to projectile vomit at 8pm and continued during the night I kept them off.

But some parents do not keep off, for 48 hours one child at school was taken home for throwing up several time then appeared at school the next day...was then sick at school again, that's not on, and how my dc1 picked up the bug which made me lose 2 days at work which wasn't good, some people are selfish arses and no your job and childcare problems are not my problem.

ChBa · 09/12/2016 14:16

YES this is very annoying. By the sounds of it, the teachers know the child was sick but dont care because it might mess up their nativity.....
If its a bug they should definitely NOT have been allowed in.

but if he had a cold/cough and was that that caused the sick then it may not be as bad.... yes a cold isn't nice but ultimately they cant be excluded for that.... though if a cough was bad enough to make my child sick they'd be kept off school regardless of what part they had in a play.

if just some bad food.... yeah should be fine and nothing to worry about. If your child gets sick then kick up a HUGE stink about them flouting the 48hr rule!!!

user1480946351 · 09/12/2016 14:19

If I was that kids mother I would be pretty cross with you for discussing my son with the teacher.
Bad form, from both of you.

GrumpyInsomniac · 09/12/2016 14:22

If you can be certain that a vomiting incident isn't to do with either a bug or a foodborne illness, then fair enough. But you generally know if your child fits that category - mine does, as he gets migraines - and brief the school accordingly.

The latest bug that floored us had DS puking once. Then nothing for another 20 hours, then nothing for another 18 hours after that. And I caught it from him, because I'm immune-suppressed, and was very ill. I don't care about how important your nativity or whatever is, it's bloody selfish to expose others to illness like that.

baconandeggies · 09/12/2016 14:26

made an exception to the 48hr rule as it was the nativity.

Disgusting beasts.

Mary21 · 09/12/2016 14:30

My ds used to get migraines at that age and the first sign was throwing up. He would be totally fine the next day after sleep and paracetamol

Witchend · 09/12/2016 14:46

It depends though.
Dd2 had permission to go back into school after throwing up once because it was usually due to a migraine/anxiety.
Ds has permission to go back in within 24 hours if his vomiting is due to temperature rise.

Both of them will be sick once only. if they have a tummy bug then they will be sick much more.
I also check with the office that there isn't a sickness bug going round before I do it, but if I'd kept to the 48 hour rule then last winter ds would have hardly been at school as his temperature was coming up in the evening. Doctor was quite happy it wasn't infectious.

NavyandWhite · 09/12/2016 14:59

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miserablesod · 09/12/2016 15:04

Some people are just selfish and only think about themselves. I'm fed up of arguing with selfish people about it tbh. Stick them all on an island together and let them share their germs to their hearts content or better still let me win the lotto so i can fuck off to an island myself and have no contact with anyone ever again. One can wish.

Farmmummy · 09/12/2016 15:06

Nope! Definitely yanbu my 21 month old dd2 ended up in hospital this week because some of dd1s classmates sent their precious but ill children to a birthday party at the weekend

lougle · 09/12/2016 15:12

Hmm...I'm quite a strict enforcer of the 48 hour rule, but on Monday at 03.00, DD3 was sick. That morning she ate breakfast merrily, and seemed perfectly well. I told the school office that she had been sick so wouldn't be in until at least Wednesday morning (48 hour rule) but that as she was absolutely fine, I was sure she'd be back then.

I was told that as long as it was just one vomit, if she was perfectly well and there were absolutely no signs of being unwell, I could bring her in the following day (so 24 hours), which actually seemed pretty sensible, given that she was absolutely well.

So.....YANBU if it was a sick bug, but if it was just a one of vomit I can see their point. But as the whole point is that you often can't tell if it's a one off vomit until there is a second vomit....YANBU

ShelaghTurner · 09/12/2016 15:14

Our school won't let the children within spitting distance if they've vomited for any reason. I rang once to beg for dd1 to be allowed back to school on day 2 as she had only vomited on the Sunday evening and I was 100% convinced it was due to piggery and not illness. But they wouldn't have it. They're rock solid on 48 days. Fine, doesn't bother me, I work from home so childcare not an issue but they can't then come back and complain about attendance figures.

user1480946351 · 09/12/2016 15:30

Some people are just selfish and only think about themselves

You're right, people who expect you to keep your kid out of school for 2 days even when they aren't contagious, just to make themselves feel better ARE selfish and only thinking of themselves.
Excellent point.

Amelie10 · 09/12/2016 15:41

Yabu, you don't know the reason he threw up.

rollonthesummer · 09/12/2016 15:49

I once had the school receptionist ring me to tell me DD should not be at school as she said she's been sick the day before. She gave me a right telling off for sending her in. When I got a word in rdgeways, I pointed out that we'd had a long car journey and she'd been sick on the m11! Car sickness was ok

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