To be annoyed at kind but unwanted help

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Because of course it was well intentioned.

Yesterday ex in laws were here. While I was out my ex FIL tried to fix a stiff kitchen tap despite me saying very clearly before I went out I was going to have it replaced and had a good handyman I used before. Came back to it completely broken and water everywhere.

Cleaned up last night. Got up this morning to kitchen flooring squelching and water coming up from joins. Trying hard not to cry. As well as no hot or cold water in kitchen.

I am so pissed off. He has form for this (they have no boundaries). He means really well but it drives me mad!

(Also, rant aside, might the flooring just dry out?)

Oh that'd really piss me off. Although next time you tell him to leave something alone I bet he'll listen.

Don't leave them in your home unattended again.

Was he still there or did he leave knowing it was leaking?

I'd be murderous. Use a dehumidifier to get rid of the water because the longer it's on the floor the more damage it will do.

I bought a home made table on castors for £12.

Delivery was £20.

I decided to rattle it home when it's home made-ness became apparent.

The castors weren't fixed into the recesses hollowed out of the legs and fell out.

One 'nice' guy offered to 'help' and tried to push one of the castors cack up into the hollow leg.

He suceeded in splitting the leg completely open.

I don't think he was being particularly kind if he didn't even finish the job and left it worse than he found it.

This is the sort of thing my dad would do, but if he bollocksed it up he'd make good and ensure that he didn't leave me with a bigger problem to deal with!

I don't think it's still leaking. I think the flooring got wet from the water shooting down the back of the sink. Not sure though.
He did feel very bad.

To top it off I've had to ask stbx to replace tap as I cant hang in until next week to get water. So that's him hanging around for a day.

I will try get a dehumidifier.

Sorry. I posted too soon.

What PPs said.

Did he just flood the place and run? Has he offered to pay for the damage?

Mop. Dehumidifier. And a mini digger. Because those graves don't dig themselves.

I'd send him the bill

BIL and ExBastard flooded the kitchen on purpose ''trying'' to fit the washing machine. They used all my towels to 'mop up the mess'.

My FIL once had the "simple" task of watering our garden while we were on holiday.

Not only did he blast several new plants completely out of the ground, he cut the hosepipe in half because it was too long so it no longer could be taken round the front to wash the cars

Just unbelievable.

He's caused damage doing something you did not ask him to do. I'm sure he feels bad but this is his responsibility to sort out. He should be paying for the damage.

Hard as it may be I think you need to ask him to pay for the costs.

My FIL once let himself in to paint the bathroom ceiling ( nope, I didn't ask either, never discussed). He split the whole tin of paint over the bath and tiles. He did sort of clean up but it left damage and we never heard the end of how awful it was and how much trouble he'd been to.

Sounds like there are a lot of people being annoyingly "helpful"! Some shocking stories.

It relieves my stress immensely just to hear iANBU, and that others would be pissed off.

In fairness he would happily have come back and spent the weekend here trying to fix it. Which is marginally worse than exH coming.

They are quite generous with gifts so i couldn't ask them for the money.

Hopefully a few humidifier will sort flooring.

When my children were little, PIL came to stay for a few days to look after children so DH and I could go on a weekend away for our anniversary. I'm quite fussy about how my washing is done. I take loads of care making sure whites kept separate from colours etc and I knew MIL just bunged everything in together. Made sure to thank them profusely for the big favour they were doing us - although knew MIL was delighted to have the grandkids to herself for a few days. Made a point of saying I liked to do the washing myself so just to leave it and I would do it when I got back. There were plenty of clean clothes and towels so would not run out.
Well bugger me, gets back to clothes airers full of wet washing, all the whites now dingy grey. I didn't shout but I told her I had asked her not to do my washing. I was only trying to help she says. But I asked you not to do my washing I -assertively- repeated. Stamps her feet, throws her coat on and says she's leaving that minute. Managed to persuade her to stay but she never apologised. I was the ungrateful one as she was only trying to help. My DH thought I was causing a fuss over nothing but over the years I have noticed many instances of where her stubbornness and interfering were cloaked in that phrase. "I was only trying to help." Now if she'd cleaned all my windows while I'd been away, I'd have been over the moon! Never seem to get round to that job.