Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to not warn a mum about a (possible) puking bug?

41 replies

NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:49

DS2 puked a bit in the night, and a bit this morning. But I think he's just throwing up phlegm - he's warm, but he's eaten a good breakfast and is keeping it down.

We are meant to have one of DS1's friends around to visit this afternoon, before taking them both to a birthday party.

I haven't mentioned the puking to the friend's mum, as I know she'd worry, and I think she'd insist on having my DS instead of me having hers.

I probably will call her if DS2 pukes again, but as it is, I figure it's just a normal cold, and not worth fretting about?

OP posts:
misdee · 17/02/2007 09:50

ok, if you know there are no immune system problems etc in that household, then i might let you off. but i would rather know.

MordecaiAliVanAllenOShea · 17/02/2007 09:51

IMHO you are obliged to warn the other mum and not take your ds to the party. Probably not a popular opinion but would not want my kids to pick something up just before half term!

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:51

No immune system problems. Youngest kid is 1.5 or something.

I will warn her on drop off maybe?

And I will absolutely call her if DS2 pukes again, but I think it was just phlegm. He's eaten a good breakfast, and it shows no signs of reappearing.

OP posts:
Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:52

We're at the end of half term, here.

And the one going to the party isn't the pukey one - it's my little one who's poorly. The big one is fine.

OP posts:
Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:52

(I wouldn't send a significantly ill child to a party - or let him have a play date over. I'm not totally slack.)

OP posts:
Radley · 17/02/2007 09:53

What I always do to ANYONE who is due to visit, is, ring them and tell them that there is/has been a bug etc and then leave it up to them whether they want to visit or not.

DD1 was sick in the early hours of this morning, but, I KNOW this was due to her having a chest infection and coughing up phlegm, but, if someone was visiting today I'd still ring them and let them now.

Gobbledigook · 17/02/2007 09:53

I'd tell. I'd tell the truth - exactly what you've said here in that he's been sick but you think it's his cold rather than a bug. As the other parent I'd rather know and then make my own judgement. It's a PITA when they get a bug and you've planned stuff - and if you've got more children it inevitably goes round all of them and there's your half term ruined.

MordecaiAliVanAllenOShea · 17/02/2007 09:53

Oh, OK sorry - I got he wrong end of the stick there!

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:54

Yes, I guess I should call her and have a chat about it. I should have mentioned it on the phone to her this morning, but was just happy she'd agreed to have her DS come over.

OP posts:
Gobbledigook · 17/02/2007 09:55

Oh I seeee, misunderstood. It's your older one and his friend going to the party but you are having the friend over for a bit before the party. Hmmmm, I think I'd just mention it but it doesn't sound like he'd pass on a bug anyway - would ds2 be playing with the older one? I'm assuming friend won't be round long.

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 09:59

Friend is coming over 2.5 hours before the party. DS2 does tend to play with big guests, but is probably a bit too clingy for that today.

I think I will take it as cough-induced puking if he keeps breakfast down.

Ok, he's standing behind me all poopy-smelling and vehemently denying he's pooed. I think he's pretty much his usual self.

OP posts:
Gobbledigook · 17/02/2007 10:02

ha ha! He sounds fine to me!

On Christmas day, ds1 woke up very green and didn't even want to open his presents. Half an hour later he was sick and by half an hour after that he was his normal self - eating, running about etc. It was really bizarre!!! In fact, he did the same the other day - really strange!

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 10:08

The poo was normal for him, reasonably solid. I think he's fine, just slightly cold/fluey. Both voms were snot. I'm just going to drop the issue.

OP posts:
FrannyandZooey · 17/02/2007 10:28

I am a bit late to this but I would absolutely want to know about a sickness bug, even the possibility of a sickness bug. It's up to her to make up her own mind after you explain it all to her. There are so many reasons to urgently not want to catch a sickness bug, that you may not know about: she may be early stages of pregnancy, be visiting people ill in hospital, be visiting friends with new baby, have emetophobia, or other people in her house may have these things. It's not your decision to make IMO.

colditz · 17/02/2007 10:34

I had a puke bug last night, between 11 and 5. Have now stopped puking. So bizarre!

LoveMyGirls · 17/02/2007 10:48

DD1 was sick last night too, she was supposed to being going to a party today - she is going to be devasted when i tell her she's not going there will be other parties........{i really don't want to be the big bad wolf when she's poorly}

{quick hi-jack - F&Z i wondered where you disappeared to, have you been on hols?}

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 10:51

I am really absolutely convinced it wasn't a puking bug, just him throwing up phlegm. I will mention it to the mum, but I am really sure he's not unwell. He didn't throw up anything that wasn't phlegm (in the middle of the night, he made a pukey noise, but we only really found a damp spot), and has eaten, and kept, his breakfast.

He is being an absolute stinker though, so I am off to go running with DS1, and leave DH in charge of him.

OP posts:
nearlythree · 17/02/2007 11:02

I'd want to know myself - I'd also want to know about the temp/snot if ds is warm - some dcs are prone to convulsions and get worse temps than others.

FrannyandZooey · 17/02/2007 11:36

I hope he stays well.

LMG I had a much needed sabbatical

Pann · 17/02/2007 11:56

Doesn't work with adults, does it?

"Was out last night, had 12 pints of cheap lager..and was sooo ill this morning...I think I may have a bit of a bug.....you may not want to come round...."

Pann · 17/02/2007 12:01

Morning Frances! Glad to see you back.

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 12:33

Arse, I miscalled it, he's since thrown up breakfast in the car. Might have been car sicknessish? But either way, have called and cancelled.

OP posts:
Mellowma · 17/02/2007 12:46

Message withdrawn

Mellowma · 17/02/2007 12:46

Message withdrawn

Original poster
NotQuiteCockney · 17/02/2007 13:40

Ha ha, I was totally wrong, he puked all over me. Gah.

He's lying asleep in bed with DH now. This is proof of how much DH hates going to children's birthday parties, he would rather stay home with an ill (puking!) DS2 than go out to a birthday party.

He keeps wanting to bf, which is fair enough, he's ill. I'm not sure whether I'll go out clubbing tonight, given. I'm not sure about going off to the party, for starters ... Gah.

OP posts: