AIBU to buy DS a bed for Christmas?

[WinterSwimwear]

DS is kind of due a new bed (well, a new mattress, but it's cheaper to buy it with the bed (bed is on sale)). He wants one of those small double beds, it's in between a single and double. It's more expensive than what the single beds are and I think a single bed is absolutely fine for his age! (13) it's something he really wants, so I'd obviously take away the amount a single bed would be and the remaining would come out of Christmas, WIBU?

I bought my ds a car bed for his 2nd birthday , he loved it.

No different from getting pants , socks or pyjamas I agree, I don't give those basics as presents either.

I think it's fine. My DS (teenager) wants a certain brand of winter coat for Christmas. It's far more than I would usually pay for his coats, so I have him the option of us going halves on it, or having it as part of his christmas presents. He chose to have it for christmas, and is very happy with that

My ds got a cabin bed for his birthday once. He was thrilled.

If he's getting a brand new blimmin iphone he's hardly hard done by.

My first double bed was a Christmas present when I was a little younger than your DC. I really wanted one & understood it was expensive.

The following year I got all matching new furniture as a mix of birthday & house present, again greatly appreciated as it gave me a beautiful "grown up" room

Yes yabu

Put it this way, does he get to take the bed with him when he moves out of home?

I think the new bed would be a great xmas present, if you know he wants it why wouldn't you call it a present? Some kids are too spoiled, as a mum I know I provide pants to my two ds but they're still getting some in their Santa bags. I grew up with limited funds though so maybe I'm biased, 'essentials' that would normally be provided by my folks were wrapped as presents and why the hell not I say

Better add before anyone says my ds is always delighted to with these types of things and I'm a terrible mum who counted his birthday cake as one of his presents cause that's what he asked for... didn't want presents, just the cake and his family round

No, I'm sorry, I'm in the camp of this isn't a Xmas gift also. I don't see our roles as parents as black and white " I have to provide you with a basic single bed and any upgraded furniture you get deducted from birthday or Xmas" .🙄

I'd manage the two seperatly.

If money wasn't short, I'd probably just buy him the bed. It's wrong to assume money isn't short because he is getting an iPhone. It's only me and him so I do my best to get him the main thing he wants and that means working lots of bank shifts to get extra, so I have done 8 extra bank shifts to cover just that. Which has been a struggle when I'm full time! We are also in a small 2 bed house, his room isn't huge and wouldn't fit a double, so to you telling me to do that, there isn't the space. I have a small double... As it's just me and I'm perfectly happy in it so saying it's no good when they're older is rubbish! I can sleep in a single and it's fine.

Thanks everyone, it's clearly just down to each family

Do what you want to do OP.

My 15 yr old DS is getting a double bed for Xmas. He currently has bunkbeds so when his mates/gf come round they have nowhere to sit because they hit their heads on the base of the top bunk.

I think if I could think of another decent pressie for him, he would get his bed as a separate thing but as I can't, he will get it for Xmas! He's happy with it so no problem really.

It seems a bit stink to be honest, its like you are saving yourself a fortune by gifting him something that is a necessity . whilst his mates are going to be playing games, what is he going to do, admire his new bed

If he will be pleased and excited then go ahead. Doesn't matter what other people think, everyone's different. I'd get some fun bits and pieces too, of course.

Mrs, maybe play on his new iPhone??

OP, do what you want. I hate people who don't read things properly!

Some peope are acting like the OP intends to wrap a bed up and put it under the tree in place of some other presents!

I don't see why you can't do it, OP. I take it as your son is now a teenager, believeing in Santa is long over for him so you can discuss money and the impact on your christmas budget for new things.

I remember many times as a teenager, getting towards the end of the year and whenever I needed an item that wouldn't really qualify as Xmas presents, eg new winter coat/new shoes, my parents would give me the option of "You can have X that is functional and costs £ and we will pay for it as it's a household expense or you can have Y that is the brand/label you want but costs ££ so the extra expense will come out of your Christmas money. Which would you prefer?"