Cleaners going through stuff

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I've lost a bracelet and live at home still. mum has said that when the cleaners next come in they can go through my stuff to find it, basically sift through all my stuff I really don't feel right with people going through all my belongings. mum and boyfriend can't see why I don't want it to happen but I really hate people going through my things. he said what do I have to hide if I'm this against it also cleaners are friends and don't just clean they look after my aunt aibu to be against it and stick to what I think I've searched high and low myself and so has my boyfriend

Do you want me to come round and look for it?

I really hate people going through my stuff

Er... if you don't want the cleaners to sift through all your stuff, you could just do it yourself?!

Look for it yourself??

^This

I have looked for it too to bottom I'm 23 if that's any different

*22

Unless you are a 5 years old wtf does your age have to do with anything?

Would a cleaner really do that. I thought they just cleaned.

Right, so you're an adult, then just say... no it's alright Mum, I'll look for it, would prefer cleaners not to go through my things.

Done, surely?

If your mum won't back down, can you phone the cleaners and explain that even if your mum says it's OK, you don't want them to go through your things? You have the right to privacy.

Mumsnet just gets weirder and weirder

You just say 'no thanks' then. You're 23, it shouldn't be too tricky

It's not the cleaner's job to find lost items, they are there to CLEAN. I lost my watch a while ago (actually it wasn't lost, my toddler had taken it and put it in the toybox) and I asked the cleaner if she could keep an eye out for it as she was going round, but didn't ask her to mount a full on search.

If the bracelet is important to you, get off your backside and look for it yourself.

I would hate the cleaner to go through my belongings like this. Or it would have to be someone I knew for a very long time and I fully trusted.

I think it's an odd proposals form your mum TBH.
If it has been one of my dcs, I would have proposed to help look for it first!

Otherwise, yes, just say 'No thank you. I prefer to carry on looking for it myself'

Oh, you're 22? Sorry, for a minute there, I thought you were 23 and I thought 'whoa, she will never get her bracelet back' and then I saw you were 22. What on earth does that have to do with it (or did you put it in there because your OP suggests it was written by someone much younger)?

Tell your mum to tell the cleaners not to go through your stuff. Find the bracelet yourself. Get a new bracelet. Who cares?

Just say that it's your choice and you choose that the cleaners don't go through your stuff, thanks very much. You'll continue to look for it yourself.

PS to find things I recommend cleaning instead of searching. Things always pop up when you aren't usually looking for them as such as you tend to go round lifting up the same cushions, checking the same boxes etc. Whereas if you decided to do a thorough clean of your room, meaning pulling everything out from under the bed, moving furniture, emptying and sorting your drawers, going through all your clothes including bags and pockets, you might well find it turns up that way.

Have you checked coat pockets and dressing gown pockets and make-up areas? They are the sorts of places jewellery can end up!

It's not the cleaner's job to find lost items, they are there to CLEAN

Oh get over yourself. Many people offering cleaning services will do housekeeping tasks like ironing, tidying, putting away a food shop. Who are you to say what the OPs parents arrangements are with their 'cleaner'.

YANBU. I wouldn't want that either. It would make me feel like a child with no privacy.

Does your mum think they've nicked it and want to give them an opportunity to 'find it'?

Perhaps the cleaner could also wipe your arse for you while they're there, maybe feed you grapes whilst fanning you with a giant leaf?