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To put daughters name on bracelet

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LoreleiGilmorethesecond · 08/12/2016 20:19

Probably the wrong place, but I want the traffic.

I'm step mum and want to buy mum a bracelet from us and her daughter for Xmas.
It needs a name on it.
Is it correct to put DSD name and birth stone, or should it be step mums.

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cantmakeme · 10/12/2016 00:15

OP said that she is good friends with her DSD's mum. So that's why she's choosing the gift, I imagine?

LoreleiGilmorethesecond · 10/12/2016 03:16

Me and her mother are very good friends, I want to do something nice for my friend and also for her daughter- who is too young to purchase this gift herself.

Why can't a stepmother just do something nice for the mother? Not all of us are bitter and sour about it. I wouldn't have it any other way!

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Ginkypig · 10/12/2016 16:18

I agree lorelei, one of the worst things about being a stepparent for me is I can't be that way with the kids mother.

My parents set a good example to me growing up (that all the adults got on even if it was complicated) so as an adult in similar circumstances I was quite surprised that I couldn't even have contact with their mother never mind be friendly with her.

Obviously though I have to respect that that is the way she wants it.

It doesn't matter now anyway the kids are adults now!

LoreleiGilmorethesecond · 11/12/2016 04:40

That's such a shame Ginkypig

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LoreleiGilmorethesecond · 11/12/2016 04:51

Sorry fat fingers-

It's such a shame!

By no means was it like this in the beginning but we took the time to get to know each other and it took a few huge leaps of faith to get to a place where we both decided there was no need to both be a pair of prats.
We then discovered we are extremely similar, same tastes and dislikes etc. Was quite strange at one strange to be honest, and I did think wow my husband just went for someone the same as her!
But then after getting to know her, her family etc, I am much more suited to him. And she's found a great guy who is good with DSD too, and it's worked out very well!
I can't have anymore kids, so now I have the big family I always wanted, and so much support from her and her mother. It's worked out like a daytime Hallmark movie.

It's probably very sickening to those who don't "get it". We've had a couple of remarks but who gives a shit. We put the effort in and so far it's paid off!

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Mummyoflittledragon · 11/12/2016 05:20

You sound lovely. Very thoughtful gift.

Alorsmum · 11/12/2016 05:35

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LoreleiGilmorethesecond · 11/12/2016 06:21

I decided on DSD first initial and birthstone charms on it.
I am sure she will like. I agree I wouldn't wear my name on it or the child's full name.
Hopefully the "subtle" initial will come across as a tasteful token of dsds love for her mum.

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