To think alcohol is an odd gift to give a pregnant woman?

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It's that time of year where sales rep's and suppliers come to the office bearing gifts for their valued customers! Yay!

A nice salesman I speak to regularly and have a good working relationship with popped in today with gifts. He knows I'm 6 months pregnant and regularly asks me how myself and baby are doing, and yet his gift to me was a bottle of prosecco. I said thank you very much and that I'll save it for later because I will and I am genuinely grateful. I like receiving gifts, even if I can't use them straight away

AIBU though to think it was a bit of an odd gift, generally speaking, to give a pregnant woman? I know some ladies have the odd tipple whilst pregnant but others like myself just avoid it altogether. Seems like a 50/50 gift in terms of whether you're met with gratitude or distain from the recipient!

I hope the next rep brings biscuits

No, the reps don't buy the gifts - they come from head office so everyone will have got the same.

Last year I bought DD's teacher a bottle of wine for Xmas as I figure most teachers want things they can use or regift - she was 6 months' pregnant and I didn't twig until after DD had given her it

His company have probably just provided them with 20 cases of prosecco to give out, so that's what he's giving out. IMO corporate gifts aren't really given with any personal thought for the recipient!

The oddest corporate gift I have received is a Santa hat embroidered with my name from a PR company I have never used (having just said they're usually impersonal...!)

My dad gave me a bottle of blue label Smirnoff when I was a few months pregnant with DC2

As pp have said, they are corporate gifts, not individually tailored to everyone.

I figured he hadn't picked it out especially for me and that he probably had a crates of the stuff for everyone But I just thought it was a bit of a gamble in terms of how I'd react! Maybe he thought he knew me well enough to know I wouldn't be offended by it? Which he was right about if that is the case

You are not pregnant forever and wine lasts .

Anyone who got offended by being given a gift, which they could either consume, save, regift, share, do whatever they like with...would be being a bit of a tit.

No, its not an odd gift at all.

Well I guess if the choice is between 'giving Tally prosecco' or 'not giving Tally anything' it's nicer to give you the prosecco and let you do whatever you want with it!

I think it's the perfect gift - you're going to have something to celebrate soon!

Well, you can drink it now or save till baby is born... don't see the problem really. Maybe it was all he was given to offer?

Cracking it open to celebrate when baby is born sounds like a great idea!

Like I said, I very much appreciated receiving it, especially over the alternative of being left out and given nothing. Hadn't considered that aspect of it, Mackerel (love your user name btw lol). Now I'm even more grateful!

I used to work with a lady who would have gotten very offended and probably shouted at you if you'd given her alcohol when she was pregnant. Quite highly strung! Maybe that's where I got the notion that it was a 50/50 gift? But all of your replies have made me think maybe she was in the minority (though ultimately within her rights to not want it)

I wouldn't say it was an odd gift. Like others said, if you don't want to drink it now, then save it.

No one sensible would be offended though would they?

You will have the baby and then be able to celebrate with the prosecco.

Sounds fine as a gift. You could either open Xmas day with family and share out, so just a small glass each to toast and have one yourself. Or wait until after baby born and do similar. It lasts ages anyway

You can save it but they should have an alternative gift in case they have any Muslim clients etc. I would also worry in case anyone is an alcoholic. I suppose if you think about it there are many gifts that are seemingly innocuous but maybe inappropriate to a lot of people.

Any gift you are offered that you find inappropriate surely you just politely decline? No need to be an arse about it.

No, not at all. In this case it wasn't personal, just a corporate-type gift that you can keep.

When I went on maternity leave with dd2, my colleagues gave me some vouchers for baby things and a big bottle of Jack Daniels for afterwards .

I think booze is a poor choice of gift for everyone as it's more likely to offend. If you don't like/eat chocolate/biscuits, you're not likely to morally object to them.

But again, who gets offended by alcohol? I know plenty of muslims, they aren't offended by the very idea of it. We aren't in Saudi Arabia, nobody gets irate at the idea of being next to alcohol.

Not really an odd gift. Like others have said it's corporate so not much choice/not personalised. I got alcohol gifts when I was pregnant (by DH too!) And they were perfect for after the birth. I couldn't breastfeed so had them earlier than I expected! The joys of alcohol is that it will last.