People are unbelievably inconsiderate...or thick or both?

[Fieldsandgrasses]

Had a lovely afternoon apart from I was watching a play next to a woman wearing a wide-rimmed hat. OK, didn't affect me in that I could still see, but what about the people behind her? Isn't it common sense not to wear a hat in those circumstances?

Then I went to the bank and had to wait for ages while cashiers explained to customers that they couldn't fulfil their requests. Surely, most over the counter operations are quite simple and if it is not possible, or your request is unintelligible and the cashier has no idea what is needed, you live away from the counter to let other people be served?

How hard can these things be? Urgh, feel better now I have said that. I just think if you go through life being reasonably thoughtful and intelligent about the way you go about things, life is so much easier for everyone?

Fairnotfair

Why aye, hinney!

I was a few weeks away from having dd2 and had just had a routine appointment at the hospital where they found a problem and said they were going to have to do an early c section in a couple of days. Was completely shell shocked and when I got back to my car, someone had parked so close to me (both sides) that I couldn't open either door wide enough to squeeze my bump in. Was relieved to see one lady returning to the car next to me, so relieved in fact that I burst into tears when explaining I just wanted to get home and get ready for the early section and see dp. She just looked at me blankly and said, 'won't be a minute' then sat in her car and ate her lunch whilst I had to just stand outside my car in tears. No parking attendants or anyone to help.
Am mystified to this day why anyone would do this!

Whole shelf of half price cava? Maybe she was, um, thirsty? Yeah, that's it, she was thirsty.

Talking about phones/Ipads at concerts. I went to see Bob Dylan at the Royal Albert Hall last year. NO PHONES ALLOWED. If anyone got one out they had an usher on them in 2 seconds shining a light in their face. It was fabulous, so much more enjoyable than the usual sea of screens (even the forty/fifty somethings do it - whyyy????)

I live in a city with trams, and to me it's sensible to stand back and let people off before getting on. Hate it when people waiting at the stops either stand directly in front of the doors so it's really hard to get past them to get off, or just push past the people getting off instead of waiting a few seconds - it's really not going to save you any time.

People who turn up at 6pm just as ive stuck my closed sign up and get all shitty when i refuse to serve them....ive been there since 8.30am so no im not going to stay late when im only paid until 6pm.

I work in retail and the amount of inconsiderate people I see in a day is no longer astounding and is now just depressing.

I work in customer services and in my store my desk is in a long workstation which is connected to the cigarette/lottery kisok but we both have very big, clear signs above our respective tills/work areas to designate the different departments. If I'm not busy and they have a queue I will give the kiosk staff a hand to get the queue down, but if some one comes with a customer service issue, the phone rings or I have to fill in some paperwork, I have to give them priority as that is my actual job ... the amount of people who have temper tantrums when they just stroll down to my till as the customer I'm serving has left the till area (eg to get an exchange item) but the transaction is not complete, or just as I'm about to make a phone call (that I've probably been needing to make for ages but have had too many customers to actually get 2 minutes to do it) I have to ask them to go back to the queue as I'm still with someone else is crazy!

Or the people who will see you are filling out paperwork/imputting data onto our online reporting system and assume you're just doing nothing and swan past the queue at the kiosk to just dump their stuff on my (very small) till area while saying "Oh, you're not busy so you don't mind if I get these few things here do you?" ... they get the shocks of their lives when I invariably tell them "Actually, I'm in the middle of something so you just need to join that queue there and the kiosk staff will serve you, or the self scans are just there" (literally 5 ft from our desk).

Or the people who finish their transactions at the kiosk and then "move down" to my workspace to sort themselves out ... it's better than them holding up the kiosk queue but when they're then in the way of my queue, whilst obliviously checking every pocket for something they didn't bring in the first place, it gets annoying.

Or the people who come to the desk to do a return, dump the item on the desk in a bag and then make no effort to actually remove it, leaving me to unpack it, then launching into a 20 minute explanation as to why they are bringing it back, ignoring every attempt I make to get the reciept (that they are holding in their hand) which I need to start the proceedings, until they are finished. All I want is you to hand over the reciept, take the items out of the bag and then let me process it as quickly as possible so the other 6 people behind you don't have to wait any longer than necessary.

Sorry that turned into a bit of a rant but it's been one of those days at work where I've had at least a few of each of those people today alone, and it's only going to get worse in the next two weeks running up to christmas.

I had to drive home behind a right dozy wazzock tonight. We had a foggy start to the day, 2 DAYS AGO. And their rear fog lights were still on!

Sooo annoying trying to drive and see. Driver of car M814 TMF, turn those bloody lights off

Flappys - thought so . Takes me back . Such a lovely descriptive word. I do a lot of stotting.
I've also been known to ask (southern) DH to "hoy it over here". He gets the message.
(Also: sandshoes. I've never heard them so called since I was a bairn, like.)

First journey driving 6 weeks after major knee surgery. Fortunately I took ds1 with me just in case I had a problem. Ironically, the journey was to the doctors to pick up a prescription for painkillers from the pharmacy. Parked up nicely and ds came in with me to collect the prescription. When we got out, the wanker person parked next to the driver side had left no room to open the door, let alone a person on crutches try and get in. Fortunately ds could shuffle in from the other side, reverse out and let me in. Still makes me fucking angry 3 years later.

Standing watching fireworks couple of years back. Been marking our 'spot' for over an hour. In a good position, very excited!! About to start. Then a very tall person arrived late and pushed his way to the front with his tall daughter.

View mostly blocked.

Got better. Fireworks began. Tall 7ft father looks down to his tall 6ft daughter and says, 'can you see poppet?' and promptly pops her onto his shoulders.

View gone

may have exaggerated slightly about daughter's height

There was a woman on a night flight I was on last week who was letting her toddler run, shrieking, up and down the aisle. The lights were off, some passengers were clearly sleeping, and she was hanging over the edge of the seat watching her little darling run up and down disturbing everyone with a big smile on her face. Eventually, someone got up and asked her to keep him in his seat. She was clearly very indignant, but did it.

Inconsiderate AND thick.

Can I add the fuckwitt who was using the local garden center's pet section as a petting zoo for her daughter last week. All well and good, but the dense bitch just would not move despite me saying 'excuse me' a million times whilst trying to get to a tank (to actually buy something I hasten to add).

Agree with all of these. But the time has come to ACT!!!!!!! Mumsnetters, we should all call out these ignorant people on their appalling behaviour. So, if you see a pregnant woman having to stand on the tube, SPEAK to the idiot who is sitting in the pregnant/disabled seat and demand they let her sit down. I've done this and (despite my username) I'm quite a shy person. As I get older I am getting braver. If these rude people do not know how to behave we should not be polite to them; we should start ganging up on them.
The reason I am getting militant about this is that I have realised the nasty people will always win because they are prepared to do things that the nice people won't do. See D. Trump. We need to muster our forces and play them at their own game!

I was on a bus once, and a young man was sitting in the accessible sideways seat at the front. The seat next to him was the only empty one on the bus and he had his backpack next to him on the seat so nobody could sit there. An lady little old lady - in her 80s - got on the bus, and he didn't move his backpack. She glared at him, sighed, shook her head, and kept it up for around 10 minutes, 'till at last he - squiriming very uncomfortably - finally move his bag and asked her if she wanted to sit down. She smiled sweetly at him and said: "No thank you dear, I prefer standing", and got off at the next stop. His face was an absolute picture! Almost everybody on the bus packed up laughing. (The reason I didn't offer her my seat is because she was a regular on the morning bus and I knew she always stood as she only went a few stops).

didyoumeantobesorude problem with that is, you don't know whether the person in the priority seat needs to be there or not.

I have a minor-ish neurological problem and I'm autistic, even when I'm not pregnant I find it very difficult to stand on a crowded, moving bus. In fact I find it very difficult to use any public transport but I can manage so long as I get a seat and cocoon myself in my hoody, with headphones on.

Thanks to autism, I would find very difficult to explain that to anyone who demanded I give up my seat or thought I was an idiot. I would immediately go into fight/flight/freeze mode, be unable to say much, and presumably reinforce the idea that I'm a rude idiot who doesn't need the seat.

Huzzah! I'm with you, Didyou!

Earlier in the week, a man was cycling right in the middle of the road in the dark, without a helmet. It was foggy and he had the tiniest light known to mankind...I beeped to let him know I was there and he turned round a gave me the V!!! I wound my window down and explained that he was right in the middle and he then ranted about he wanted to get home too, etc. Good job I slowed down and took my time in the fog as he could have easily been clipped!

I had to drive home behind a right dozy wazzock tonight. We had a foggy start to the day, 2 DAYS AGO. And their rear fog lights were still on!

Had the opposite the other day. Very thick and low fog so extremely poor visibility and I'd say only 20% of the drivers I encountered on a local 60mph road had their fog light on. What do they think they're actually for?!

karla I was driving up a badly-lit one way street last week and came across two middle-aged cyclists going the wrong way down it. No lights, no high vis. I stopped and asked them if they realised it was a one-way and got rolly eyes and 'yes, of course we do'.

I suggested that in that case they might want to use lights so that oncoming cars knew they were there, but just got a loud teenage-style sigh and muttered 'fuck's sake'. in return. Fuck 'em.

I am understanding a bit about people needing to do the school run but my problem is they are parking half on the road and half on the path. This means I have to walk in a main road with my pram as it won't fit on the path to take my ds to school.

Same road has become a favourite haunt of a local driving instructor. 60mph dual carriageway with a few roundabouts on it. He thinks nothing of taking drivers that won't go above 25-30mph on it. The old main road the dual carriageway relieves is a 30mph road. So why the fuck slow everyone else down?!

Oh the parents driving to schools around here just pull up on the grass verges/zig zags or block the whole cycle lane. They park over the bit that says 'coaches only' too. It's terrifying most mornings.