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My Dad hasn't really been in my life. We reconnected in January. The same month he booked a trip to Berlin to cover Christmas, so I sat, we will have a mock christmas type of celebration before you go.
Which was planned back in October, for 18th December.
We would have dinner, watch a Christmas film. The usual. It's the first time that we've ever planned to spend any Christmas time together.
So I've reiterated the date a few times... and to be honest, it's become something I'm looking forward to. I've had a really, really shit year.
My marriage has fallen apart, I'm being evicted, which means moving 50 miles from everyone who we know. And I'm estranged from the rest of my family. None of this is his fault, but I feel like he should be looking out for me at the moment, he never has, but I thought that was because I never really needed him to.
This morning he sends me a text saying we will need to rearrange our plans, as he's got a Christmas party he's just been invited to... it's been planned for two weeks. Which seems really bloody typical of him. It often seems our relationship is very one sided, which is hurtful, but this has really gotten to me.
To be honest I feel like giving up on this relationship, as it is all one sided, and he's not even given it a thought that actually this is the one positive thing that I had to look forward to.