Ageism - aibu

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Not a taat. It is a taap, but I don't want to derail the original thread as it is quite a sensitive subject.

If someone questions a person for being 21, ttc because they 'make an observation' that most 21 yo don't have the stability and security, is that ageism?

My thoughts are yes, but happy to listen to other opinions.

Does it matter?
If it's a discussion, then people in any discussion will have different opinions. Threads on here are just a "chat" and people will regularly say things that you think are ridiculous, unbelievable, weird, and also true, sensible, helpful and all sorts of other things,. Some you'll agree with, others you won't, but everything doesn't need a label.

don't think it's ageism, just that shops etc have to be sure of age for trading laws, plus young people are not usually described as 'old biddies', and 'bless, it's her age, blah, blah. older people are regularly put down and treated as idiots that's ageism in my book.

It is ageism... but I do remember being 21 and thinking I knew everything, now a decade later I feel like I know nothing

I wouldn't disparage their choice to ttc but in my head I'd be thinking about how if I'd done that I would've missed out on travelling, parties and horrible jobs

if this is about you ttc at 21 then that is your choice other people should butt out, better to have kids when you want them rather than being told by -interfering- well meaning people

Still a TAAT.

It's a bit condescending, especially considering how many young parents there are around on MN. And it's very sweeping. So yes, probably ageist.

It's making a seeeping generalisation that twenty one year olds can't possibly be ready for motherhood.

If it's the thread I'm thinking of there are issues with the funding of fertility treatment for younger couples.

That's an interesting point Purpledaisies... I never considered that there might be funding issues for younger families.

Theoretically I'd have though that they're the best ones to throw money at as they have younger organs/longer window for success.

What was the original post that made you ask this question?

The issue with subjects like this is people will give you their opinions based on their own experiences. I for example coseidered TTC when I was around 20/21 with my then partner. I though we would be together forever. Roll on 6 years and I thank my lucky stars this never happened! I equally did not have the income I have now, nor was I really mentally ready to become a mum. I would offer my opinion but it wouldn't be from judgement of you

Just wanted to add, I would add my opinion if I was asked or very concerned if it were a RL close family member of friend. Not just randomly to someone who hadn't asked for an input