....to do a sickie tomorrow because my house is an absolute tip, I'm beyond exhausted & I need to pluck my eyebrows?

[Daisychainsandleather]

Evening all!
Help me make a decision if you will....
Single mum with very little support (none actually) ....
House is a tip! Can't find anything, have paperwork to sort out, really tired, loads of washing to do, the list is endless and I spent all day today on the verge of tears because I'm a bit stressed... (A lot stressed...)
I reckon I can get on top of everything in a day while kids at nursery/school.
Non eventful admin day tomorrow. No impact on colleagues....
AIBU to do a sickie? Haven't done one all year.... Oh yeah, eyebrows looking hideous!

That changes things for me op.

mygorgeoussmilo
Thank you

Quite, quite honestly, if you're in the verge of tears about mess and laundry, you are suffering from stress and anxiety. I'm not being wry either says the one who knows. And my god that's a chronic illness. It's what most people who are signed off for long term are suffering with.

Do you work full time? It might be worth sometimes booking child care fir a Saturday if you do or an additional day in the week to help ease this.

I think a sickie is better this week than the next couple. Perhaps two days of vomiting too. Or a bad uti. (I had a terrible one once, blood and being sick.)

Damn it, rogue apostrophe. Employers

Do it and make sure you have time for a cuppa and putting your feet up

Cross post op, a three day vomiting bug me thinks.

OP says how hard she usually works - including usually not taking a lunch break.

This adds up to a few days per year free work being given to her employer.

Yes do it. It really won't make any difference in the great scheme of things at work but it will to you.

I honestly would take 2-3 days op.

Do it. Take 2 days, much more believable. Have one day to do absolutely nothing but drink tea and watch telly and then sort your shit out on the 2nd day. You'll feel amazing!

Do it.

Seriously the company will never find out as long as you don't tell anyone or put anything on fb.

Sometimes we need a day and frankly if taking one day now and spiralling and potentially taking weeks it's a better option.

You need to take two day off for it to look convincing.

Vomiting bug.

Buzz moon, the other way round...Op can't relax in a messy house.

Work then play.

Op take the day off, make a to do list and get things done one at a time. Once you've got your house all sorted take an hour and have a nice bath with a book. You'll feel so much better for it.

Personally when my MH is low it makes me feel overwhelmed. The washing piles up, the house needs cleaning, my to do list grows and I feel as though I'm drowning.

It's not just about a messy house, but when your house is clean and tidy, the washing is done and your list of things to do is manageable you feel in control and ready to take charge of your life.

I say do it, take two. What's the alternative, end up in a worse state and having weeks, even months off?

I think it can depend. I've been in situations where I needed a day to rest before tackling things and also when just tackling things helped.

Depending on the severity of the stress.

Your employer's are not going to reward you for constantly working through ill health or lunch

well, depends on your role and your business. Where I work, bonuses are paid to the most dedicated and efficient people. 9 to 5 workers don't get promoted and receive the most basic bonus. Being in the office for the sake of being there doesn't pay off either thankfully I'd rather work through most of my lunches than staying even longer in the evening

On the verge of tears due to stress?

Yep that's reason enough.

(From someone who works in the NHS and hasn't had one day off sick in 5 years)

Book some leave don't steal from the firm it's wrong

If she's not well how is she stealing from the firm by calling in sick? Especially given the free work she's given them over the year by working through her lunch.

I think the OP contains some humour about doing her eyebrows etc (and that's often how very anxious people deal with things) but she has since given us details of how she's struggling.

Take the rest of the week off and enjoy it too ! Life is too short!

**Serin

On the verge of tears due to stress?

Yep that's reason enough.

(From someone who works in the NHS and hasn't had one day off sick in 5 years)

Lovely to see our NHS are so empathetic.

I'm sorry I don't think I got the mental health thing across very well.
I have felt this stressed out before & it's spiralled into GP trips to discuss depression/mental exhaustion/not coping well at all/counselling. For me, prevention is way better than cure.
It's not just a messy house (although that doesn't help) there's been a lot happening lately with an EA ex, dis functional family & zero support from any of them. Didn't mean to offend anyone. You're all raising really valid points. So thanks

This changes everything.

You asked if YWBU to pull a sickie. Yes, YWBU.

But actually you want to take a day off work because you've recognised the early symptoms of mental health problems. That isn't pulling a sickie, that's correct use of sickness leave because you're unwell!

So YWNBU to take the day off. But don't just tidy and sort, have some rest and book an appointment with your GP.

It's been so stressful where I work recently (NHS), restructure, low morale, bitchy colleagues, opportunities denied and the work still needs doing. A couple of weeks ago, I could stand it no longer and took 3 days off sick. I felt guilty as hell as I lied about being sick. And yes, I know I could have taken leave but not at such short notice. I hadn't taken a day off sick for 2 years.

Take the day, no take 2 days OP.