About infant or preschool sleepovers

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My dc have fallen into a crowd at school that do these, I'm polite but to be honest find it a little odd at this age and I'm being quietly evasive politely.

Dc1 is yr 2, probably confident enough to go to one. However I don't feel at their age there is a massive need to already be staying up half the night when they can meet to play at weekends and evenings quite freely. Also, although very unlikely, if something untoward happened I don't feel they'd have the confidence to tell an adult if another adult ordered them not too. Is that paranoid? always one child at a time I find. I don't really to be honest want to feel obliged to then return such an invite either and deal with giggly 6 year olds instead of sleeping

The one in nursery class I just find an odd idea, I just laughed a bit not thinking it was a real idea. He would probably be in bits and is no way ready, nor do I want to host a child of this age as surely the care needs would be very high.

Aibu to think sleepovers are a teenage/ old enough to crack on with it and get their own late night snacks/ deal with the consequences of no sleep alone?

I think it depends on the child and also the relationship with the other child's parents. We do this with one family and have done for about 6 months (DC are nearly 5). The DC are best friends and we are very close with the parents and socialise with them a lot. So, we are all comfortable with each other and I am entirely confident, as are they, that if there was a problem our DC would articulate it to them and theirs to us iyswim. We sometime do it just because the kids want a sleepover but usually its to help each other out for babysitting.

We also stick to the routine as much as possible so, whilst they may stay awake for a little longer than normal, they are still put to bed at the normal time. No extra trouble, in fact, it gives me a break as my DC is entertained!

If it makes a difference, both DC are only children so we want them to be able to still experience the fun of having a friend in their house overnight (as they don't have siblings) and be sociable and confident in different situations.

Fair enough Chilver....your situation makes sense.

We all have 2/3/4 children (room sharers too) and it seems being up very late in the done thing. I guess if I had an only and it meant a night out while my child had a reasonable bedtime I may be persuaded!