What's the worst act of revenge you've ever done?

[Clothears123]

I'll confess mine. Years ago I was in my 20's and flat sharing in London with Scottish girl. I was really worried as I thought I was pregnant and I confided in her. She swore not to tell anyone and I really believed I could trust her. About a week later a guy who was a mutual friend told me I wasn't showing yet! I was so angry and so betrayed. It was eating me up inside. Up to this point a lot of crappy stuff had happened to me and I always seemed to meeting people who basically treated badly and I always let it go and they would get away with it. This time though I'd had enough of being walked over so I decided I had to get my own back. This girl absolutely loved Mick Hucknell and Simply Red. She been to their concert and she had a cassette tape she played over and over again. I can't lie, I felt immense satisfaction as I opened the rubbish chute, tore the tape to shreds and then shut the chute and listened to it all tumbling down to the huge metal bins below. I tend to have a guilt complex but I have never ever felt guilty about this and would even admit it to this girl's face if I saw her again. I know if I hadn't have done anything it would have eaten away at me for years but it was very therapeutic to deal with it and let it go.

Oh, and I used to spit in the tea of a man I hated and hand it over with a smile!

I can't say I've ever "taken revenge". It strikes me as petty and pointless.

Haven't got it in me to be a cunt, really. Spitting in someone's tea is disgusting.

An ex was being an arse when we spilt up, and was being awkward about collecting his belongings from my house. He had a portable TV that could only be controlled by the remote control, as there were no buttons on the actual TV. I "lost" the remote control before givibg him back the TV.

That sounds like a massive overreaction tbh. And spitting in tea is just disgusting. Are you actually proud of your husband for that?

Ive never taken revenge on anyone, not because I'm a nice person, just because Ive never been given the opportunity to get my own back.

I think it depends on a lot of things. If you're in a position where you feel powerless and vulnerable but you have feelings of injustice you have to do something with them, whether it's supressing them - not very effective as it bubbles up somewhere else - , working through them or dealing with the person head on. If you're a person who lacks confidence, dealing with a person head on is just sometimes not possible as you don't have the self-esteem or the assertiveness to do it. These days I'm more able to talk about things face to face but then I was terrified of everything and everyone and so at that time I had to deal with it somehow even if it was in a passive aggressive way.

Nope, never felt the need to do anything like that.

No not 'oh' as in my husband - I had no husband at the time. I meant 'oh!' as in by the way. Yes it is a vile thing to do and I wouldn't do it now and I AM talking about 30 years ago! No I am not proud of it but I did it and I own it and I understand why I did it.

I once lived in a house share where they all turned against me over cleaning. I dared to suggest we had a cleaning rota. One guy was outraged as he was far too busy for cleaning, even though he made the most mess out of all of us! Everyone bitched about him and I confronted him. The other housemates then decided to side with him.
They would come home drunk late at night and stamp loudly in the wooden floors while shouting my name. It was very intimidating bullying behaviour. I avoided going home each evening until late. I spent one Saturday riding buses around London to avoid having to go home. I eventually moved out and before I left I cleaned the toilet with all of their toothbrushes.

Nothing trivial.

I did tell the husband of the woman DH had an affair with what had been going on though. Partly to make sure she didn't get away Scot free - so revenge, yes - but also partly because I knew I'd have wanted him to tell me if the situation was reversed.

Life's too short for petty revenge though IMO.

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When I was very young and being bullied for the first (but sadly not last) time at work, I signed the bully-beast up for lots of introductory offers of naff china and records and whatnot - the sort of thing where they just keep sending unless you cancel.

Petty of me, but made things feel a tad more even.

Santasmonkey i did that too. It felt so good it actually really helped.

Yes the DM will pick this up like a shot complete with screen shots. Or maybe The Wright Stuff.

I have never understood the cleaning the loo with people toothbrushes thing.

So because you don't have the 'self-esteem to deal with someone head on' you enact petty and disgusting revenge behind their backs?? But you think your flat mate was the bad friend in this equation?

Also, I generally don't brag about things 'I'm not proud of' on an Internet forum!

I had an EA boyfriend. Wouldn't let me see my family. I wasn't allowed to use the bathroom with the door closed. Would accuse me of flirting and insist that I look down when out in public, so that I won't look at other guys. Lots of other stuff, but tmi ...

He wanted babies but in my brainwashed mind I knew I couldn't be tied to him for the rest of my life. I took the pill secretly.

After I managed to dump him finally (left with a lot of debt and emotional baggage).. we became friends again (under the pretence that he was helping me out ). Then one day we ended up in bed together (as you do when you're young and stupid ).

He promised me the world and I believed that he had changed.

Not long after I found out that he was actually engaged to another girl.

About 3 months later I phoned his home to be told by his mother that he was on holiday with his fiance. I said "oh never mind" He got most of his nasty traits from her so I knew she would ask what was up. I told her that I was 3 months pregnant,but she mustn't say anything. And then pretended that I had said too much and she must forget it all, and put the phone down.

10 minutes later he phoned me from his holiday. My colleagues pretended that I had been sick a lot lately and had gone home.

I felt pleased that I had managed to ruin his holiday. He had ruined a lot of years of my life, which included a paracetamol overdose.

I have never done anything like that since (20 years now) and firmly believe that, that is why I cold move on with my life.

I hear he is still an emotional bully and I don't feel a bit guilty.

I wouldn't do anything to anyone that I would hate to have done to me. I feel sorry for people that feel the need to be vile. They must have horrible lives and I wouldn't want to live in their head.

Be an adult and confront someone if they've upset you.

People sneaking around doing petty things in the name of 'revenge' always makes me think less of them to be honest.

There's usually tales of sewing prawns into curtain hems. Also too mush work.

irritated, that sounds like a hideous situation. I have had similar experiences myself, where a whole house share turns against you and you dread going home. Its truly miserable. Glad you got out and I really can't judge you too harshly for the toothbrush thing!