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AIBU to be bricking it about dd's jabs today?

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 09:34

I've delayed dd's third lot of jabs as she kept being ill around the time they were due and lo and behold she has a cough and slight cold now that the day is upon us again! The gp surgery say to come anyway. She's 5.5 months so about 6 weeks late for them. She was really poorly for a couple of days after first lot and had awful stomach pain after second lot so I wanted to make sure she was free of illness when she gets the third lot but it being winter, this is proving difficult. Would I be unreasonable to delay again or shall I just bite the bullet and let her have them despite her having a bit of a cough/cold. I am stressing unbelievably about this as she was inconsolable after the first two lots. Actually ended up in a&e after second lot as she was in so much pain. Needless to say it's scared me a bit.

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yellowfrog · 06/12/2016 09:40

Ask for the GP for their advice. If they say she's ok to have them, I would do it now and get it over and done with

Helpme9 · 06/12/2016 09:45

See what the nurse says. I wouldn't delay unless they advise to of course. I think terrible stomach is from the drops for the tummy bug it's relatively new. Also men b also made my little one feel very poorly a couple of weeks after the jab

SaltyMyDear · 06/12/2016 09:45

Delay!

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 06/12/2016 09:47

I would call and ask. I think there is a certain time limit that they need to be done by otherwise the jabs have to be started again? I could be wrong though

MrsBobDylan · 06/12/2016 09:50

I'd get them done. What the jabs protect against is more important than any temporary side effect imo.

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 10:12

I'm waiting for a call back from the nurse, dd has started coughing more now. My partner, MIL and DM have all been ill this last week and now my eldest is complaining of ear ache... hmm.

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 10:49

Nurse says to get them done 😭

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FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 06/12/2016 10:54

Sorry YABU. Get them done. Discomfort after jabs is not pleasant but the diseases they will protect her from are much much worse.

Get some calpol for after.

CaraAspen · 06/12/2016 11:07

If she has a cold, delay it. Definitely. And ultimately it is your choice, as the parent.

Katy07 · 06/12/2016 11:18

Get them done. If she's going to be ill from jab & coughy things then you might as well get it all over with at the same time. You'll be feel better once its done and she has to have them at some point. Be brave now and then you can relax (and provide tlc and sympathy as required) later. Good luck!

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 11:19

Problem is we can't get them done till end of January if we don't get them done today. I really don't know what to do and I have to be there in twenty minutes!

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 11:44

Am here and still bricking it!!!

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RhodaBorrocks · 06/12/2016 11:52

You should only delay if she has a temperature. Hopefully they will check that before making a decision.

Speaking as someone who has been left disabled through having one of these illnesses that vaccines prevent (we dint have a vaccine for it back then), get them done. As a PP has said, discomfort afterwards is nothing compared to having these vaccine preventable illnesses and the complications they cause. I'd pick a stomach ache over being deaf any day!

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 12:31

She doesn't have a temp so we went ahead with them. Her cough is minor and she is just a little snuffly so nurse said it's best to get it over and done with. I just hope she's ok and doesn't have too bad a reaction from them.

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Oly5 · 06/12/2016 12:36

Well done! She would suffer far more from catching a nasty disease than she will from a vaccine

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 12:44

I hope you're right. I cried! Feel terrible... just can't reconcile it in my head because it causes her pain, even though logically I know it's the right thing to do.

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TheProblemOfSusan · 06/12/2016 12:49

Oh poor you and her, what a stress. I think you've definitely done the right thing though, those childhood diseases are awful. We forget just how horrific they could be.

More anecdata, I know, but in my birth year we never got a mumps vaccine, and it ripped through our halls when I was at uni. Quite apart from it being very uncomfortable at the time it meant there were several young men who caught it and subsequently might not be able to have children.

Jemimapuddleduk · 06/12/2016 12:53

Glad you had it done. YWBU and I think you know that! It's not the most pleasant thing in the world but much better than the side effects that measles, mumps and rubella could cause to your dd or to children without immunity where catching those illnesses could be potentially lethal. This is the case with my 2 yo and others in his position who have had chemo which has wiped out all his childhood vaccs and he has a weakened immune system too. He will have all his immunisations again in Jan 17 once his immune system is robust again. Till then he is at risk of catching these and really does rely on herd immunity. Am I dreading it, of course not the vaccinations are nothing compared to the brutality of 6 months of chemo that he has endured with long hospital stays! Rant over....

Ummmmgogo · 06/12/2016 13:00

I know it's all over now but I just wanted to say well done for getting them done. The diseases that the jabs protect against can kill so the sooner she is protected the better. I was terrified when my 8 week old had his jabs because he had a cold but I didn't notice any side effects. 🍷🍸🍹for you once they are asleep tonight xx

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 19:48

She is very grouchy and unwell. Lots of crying in pain :( so hard to see her like this.

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Ummmmgogo · 06/12/2016 20:19

Oh no. TBH at her age it could be overtiredness, her exisiting cold, teething or anything making her cry. Hopefully she will stop soon and you can all have some rest xx

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 06/12/2016 21:52

Can I ask what makes you think she's in pain? I mean as opposed to feeling under the weather?

(I don't mean that rudely, I've never had a baby that was in pain. Except when I bounced their heads off the doorframe Blush)

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 06/12/2016 21:54

Hope she's feeling better soon btw. Calpol and cuddles.

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OhWhatAPalaver · 06/12/2016 23:27

I don't know, I can just tell it's a pain cry. She's had lots of issues with reflux and wind so I know the difference between a pain cry and a normal cry I guess.

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dailymaillazyjournos · 06/12/2016 23:53

I think the next one doesn't have the rotavirus vaccine in. I do think it seems to be that that causes the stomach pain. DGD had hideous smelling farts, diaorrhea and definitely stomach ache after the first two. Are you dosing her up with Calpol? I think it's normal to feel utterly traitorous getting them done but as PPs have said, if this is how shit they feel after a minute dose, the real deals would be absolutely terrible. DD was in an isolation ward for a week with rotavirus at 15 months (no vaccine for it in the early 80's) and she was so poorly.

Really hope DD is brighter in a day or so and that tonight isn't too rough.