to ask for ds's top back?

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Ds2 started nursery around 6 weeks ago. On his first full day he came home without the top he'd gone in wearing. Nursery searched for it but it couldn't be found. They apologised and said it had probably gone home in the wrong bag but would likely be handed in in a couple of weeks.
I was a bit sad as this top had belonged to ds1 and had sentimental value to me but put it down to being one of those things and hoped that it might yet turn up.

Dropping ds off at nursery this morning I saw another child wearing my sons top! It's quite distinctive and was purchased several years ago so it's highly unlikely another child in such a small nursery (6 kids in the baby unit) would own the same top in the same size as our missing one. WIBU to ask for my this top to be returned? I can't decide if sentiment is clouding my judgement on this?

Tell the staff, they won't have noticed. Yes, just ask for it back!

Oh wow. I couldn't hold my tongue in this situation. I'd have to speak to a member of staff and tell them I'd spotted it. They can then approach the parent.

I'm kicking myself for not tackling it when I saw it but I suffer with anxiety disorder which can affect my judgement, particularly if I feel a situation may become confrontational. It's good to know I'm not out of order for wanting to ask though. Thank you

All you have to say is "I was wondering if DS's top had turned up yet. I saw another B wearing one that looked very like it the other day and wondered if perhaps it had gone home in the wrong bag by mistake?"

I'd be more forward than that. I'd say I had seen x wearing it the other day & could they get it back please.

Time to get the name tags out.

Is your DS top labelled? I'd tread VERY carefully. You have no proof that this child does not own the same top...it's not impossible, you've got one.

A girl in my college once approached me very crossly and demanded back her dance leggings...which were on me at the time!

I said "These are mine" and she insisted on looking at the label. Rude cow.

They were MINE and she looked a fool.

Yes I second being careful. Was once having a lovely drink with my family in the pub at Christmas when a woman came over saying I had her jacket on that I had removed from the coat rack and that it was ok as I was obviously cold and that she needed it back after a few G&Ts I was not as polite in my response. It is possible that it's not your sons too.

If I'm being honest, personally, I would let it go but it would irritate the life out of me. Labelling's the way to go, I've found this great white, washable, clothes pen (£3 on ebay), because labels irritate my DS to the point of distraction, you can even just leave a little white square or other symbol on the collar if you don't fancy writing his name out on his clothes.

If it was labelled then yes I would approach if not then I wouldn't. Also never send any clothing into nursery that you would be unhappy to lose or get ruined.

Never send him in things that you like!

It will be lost or ruined. Many of Ds's clothes never come back.

That includes a pair of clarks shoes that went home with the wrong child and never came back.

I got halfway through taking my jacket from a friends house, checking it had the correct missing button and taking off the weird broch that had appeared on it before thinking... hang on.

The top has been returned in ds's bag today. However, the top he was wearing this morning is now missing. I am less attached to this one though so will let it go.

Ds1 went to a different nursery, in 4 years all they lost was a pair of socks and a sweater. In the last week ds2 has lost a bottle, a dummy, his muzzie and now a top. He only attends 1 and half days! I'm currently ordering additional name labels... for everything! Nothing is going in unlabeled!