I get that it makes some people feel better to be Pollyanna. But when your DF is in hospital with various infections including a virus that just won't go away, is in intensive care attached to a spaghetti junction of tubes, has two organs missing, is 86 and not responding to his surroundings, aren't I entitled to feel a bit hopeless? It's shit going through this. I'm feeling miserable for myself and even more for my DM. I know the odds are against any kind of recovery. And I know the way I feel is not going to make a blind bit of difference to his prognosis. Don't try and tell me otherwise. It's crap, I don't feel strong, I don't feel brave, this is how it is. 