Plan cancellers

[Sugarlightly]

I know I'm not being unreasonable but just want a rant. Our friend convinced us a few weeks ago to have a New Years Eve party and said they would definitely attend. Made a little group chat; including the person that originally convinced us to have a party - in case plans changed - and this person has said they have other plans (going to a restaurant and then a pub)

Obviously not the worst thing in the world, but probably compounded by the facteveryone else has read but ignored the message completely. These are mainly my DPs friends and their girlfriends so, although they are lovely people, I'm not as comfortable with them as I am my own friends. DP has spent a lot of time trying to convince me they are my friends as well as his friends, and it's times like these I don't get that impression.

I really think they are unreasonable, but would welcome any comments on this!

Are the others still coming?

Happened to me a few years back. Friend made nye plans then when i text her day before to ask where we were meeting up no reply. No reply on the day either. I checked fb in the afternoon and she was with the whole group in central London. Apparently there was no room for me in the cars as someone Insisted on bringing their relatives, but instead of telling me like a normal person she just ignored me. Learned my lesson then - never made any more plans with her again.

Cancel (via the group chat) and do what you want.

No drama.

Yes it was rude but ultimately if you didn't want a party, you should never have agreed to it.

It was unfortunate that clearly they accepted another offer inbetween the original conversation and you doing the inviting, but you are bound to get a lot of people already committed to something on NYE.
You need to decide if you are going ahead, and message / text / ring / speak to all the people individually to see who can make it, or put in the group chat that you aren't going to go ahead as it seems lots of people have commitment s elsewhere.
If you go ahead, it makes sense to invite a load of your friends too so you will have enough folk there to make the party go with a swing.