Does it sound to you as if this mum is depressed?

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She doesn't get up for hours at the weekend and needs several cups of tea before she will speak to anyone.

Her DH gets dc up and dressed. Gets DH to take dc on days out and for walks.

Used relatives and friends to take dc when husband won't.

Drinks heavily.

Strangers on the Internet can't tell you. But alcohol is a depressant so drinking heavily could be the key. Hungover so needs fluids in the morning and has a headache so doesn't want to speak to people.

No-one here can diagnose depression I'm afraid.

Who is this you're talking about and is her husband/close family worried?

Nobody, least of all a bunch of people who don't have medical training, can diagnose depression from a brief description of a total stranger.

Are you worried about her because you think she is depressed? Or do you want to moan about her because you think she isn't? Because your post actually sounds like you just want to criticise her tbh.

Are you talking about yourself?

Is this you? I would worry about her, yes.

strange post, does she see DC at other times> I mean I am a sahm, so weekend is when I get a break and DH does take dc out he prefers to take them out without me too! We do tons of stuff together mind you, also one DC is still waking at night and I cant get back to sleep when she wakes me up, so DH being a morning person tends to do mornings

You make it sound like there is something wrong with a father looking about his children on the weekends.

No

The drinking is the only part of the equation that would bother me. I fucking hate mornings and am not approachable without a coffee.

No what?

When do the hours start? If dad gets up at 6 and mum gets up at 9 if think that was fine. If the children are up at 8 and mum doesn't get up until lunch time, that wouldn't sound good, but it's for every family to do what suits them best.

Why do you ask?

I would lean towards alcoholism tbh but there is obviously something else underneath it all that led to the drinking to begin with .

Sorry

I meant no, I don't think there's anything wrong with a father looking after his children.

But it's unusual for a mother to do next to nothing.

They sound like they need help.