To think back the hell off!

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I've been up since 5:30am with my DD and his highness has only just got up. Literally 5 mins ago.

I tell him me and DD are going to his sisters in another city. He's at work today 10-4 so is not coming with us.

He kept asking me what time I'll be back, I told him I don't know what time I'm going yet, so no idea when I'll get back. He kept asking. I told him to stop asking as I don't know yet but will be back in time for making Sunday roast dinner. And I got "Good".

Then he asked me again what time I'm going, and what time I'll get back. I said "for the 4th time, I DONT know!!"

Then he got pissy with me, saying "why are you making me out to be horrible because I want to know what time you will be home, all I want to know is where my wife and daughter will be and a rough time of you getting home!"

Fucking seriously? How am I supposed to know what time I'll get back if I have no idea what time I'm even setting off yet?!?!

Seriously, AIBU here?

It's a reasonable question the first time it's asked, after that I'd get pissed off too.

It's a bit odd that you have no idea. What about your sisters plans for the day? What about eating at lunchtime?

There's a huge difference between 12 and 6. Maybe he'd go for a drink after work if you won't be back.

I don't think it's an unreasonable question to ask. If you genuinely don't know then say that and that you'll text when you're leaving to come home / if you're going to be home later than him etc. It's just simple communication and good manners

As long as you never expect him to give you a clear answer in similar circumstances then you are not being unreasonable. If you want more info than you give out then you are.

I like to know roughly what time people are home. Allows me to plan what time for dinner, whether I can nip to the shops on the way home, does it matter if I do an hour over time.
If dh doesn't know he'll sometimes say he'll text just before he leaves.
It's not an unreasonable question.

It's not unreasonable to ask.

It is bloody unreasonable to ask a second/third/fourth time when you have already been given an answer.

He knows where his wife and child will be, they will either be at his sisters, on the way there or on the way back.

If he's that keen on Sunday roast maybe he could start making It when he gets in.

The 'Good' says i all doesn't? It translates as 'Yes, make sure you'e home to cook my dinner, woman'.

You wee right not to indulge him.

Do you ever get a lie in

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I get a lie in? Nope. Unless DD sleeps in, no I don't. The latest I've been woken in 6+ months is 7am. Usually I get up between. 5-5:30am.

The reason this annoys me is because he gets up every day at. 7:30 or later and bitches that he's so very tired. He's not the one been up with DD when she gets up in the night.

Home now anyway.

I don't like someone asking me a question several times after I've already answered it. Bugs me so much! He always does it. He's happiest if I just stay home, he's even said so before.

Is he controlling in other ways? It sounds like you do need to keep resisting this sort of thing, otherwise he'll be demanding more and more detail about how you are spending your time.

Yes, he is controlling. Very.

What he says goes, his moods rule our home.

How much longer are you willing to put up with this treatment?

Can't be much fun for anyone but him.