To think my employer is taking the piss??

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I work as a nanny for 2 children aged 4 and 13 months. Oldest is at nursery 4 full days a week.

I only started working for the family 6 months ago. The job was stated as mostly childcare but employer explained that they expected me to put any laundry on, hoover and do other light cleaning

This isnt the reality- I will be left with dishes from the parents dinner the night before (I feed the children and wash the dishes before I leave- fine with that of course) plus the breakfast dishes and the kitchen will be in a mess. I must do 2/3 loads of laundry a day, hoover daily and get left a list of chores once/twice a week of things that granted I can do while the youngest is sleeping and oldest is at nursery but I dont think its my job to do it- cleaning bathrooms, changing parents bed

The parents will leave money for the children to go on trips out etc- but I will be expected to pay for myself which can add up to £50 a month- doesnt seem much but I feel this should be covered by the parents

AIBU?

you are not a cleaner you are a nanny, and should not be expected to do cleaning. Also obviously they should pay your expenses when you are taking the children out.
Why are you even asking? You know the answer.

No, YANBU. They're taking the pee.

Do you have a contract? What does it say about non childcare chores?

Re expenses, if they want you to take the children to whatever, then they pay for your expenses. Get that sorted immediately.

Yep, taking the piss. I would not be taking the kids on trips unless my expenses were covered too.

Yes, even if I have a babysitter, lower on the level of care IMO, I would pay the sitter for any activities I want him-her to take my children to participate in.

Re the cleaning, I think they are taking advantage. Clean their beds! 2-3 loads a day! Granted I always thought nannies were care and house to a point. ie clean up after themselves and the children as allowed, children are their priority. I would look at your contract and see what it says. £50 adds up depending what your overal wage is.

Nanny/cleaner/housekeeper all different jobs. Organising the children's clothes? Fine. Anything above that, not your job.

How likely are they to have a discussion? Are they likely to be approachable and feel shame faced at how they have treated you or kick off in an Upstair Downstairs manner?

If the former then talk to them, if the latter then get looking for a new job, play nice until you have their reference and then make it clear exactly why you are leaving in the hopes that they wont take the piss out of the next poor sucker.

Yanbu. They are treating you as a housekeeper with a bit of childcare thrown in. Look for another job.

Yes they are. As a nanny i would only expect you clean up after the children each day, so wash up what you and the children have used, maybe bung a wash on for the kids clothes and general tidy up of toys/whatever has been used by you at the the end of the day. I would not expect you to clean anything else (unless you offered) as that is not your job.

Oh and yes your expenses should be covered if they want you to take the children out.

I don't think it's unreasonable to do light housework as part of a nanny job. It depends on what was agreed at the start. How much extra I would do would depend on how much I liked the job and whether or not they would good employers.

The having to pay for yourself on trips out is unreasonable. Do you mean entry tickets to attractions, that sort of thing?

Not a great deal for you im afraid
What does your contract say ?
We hired a "family assistant" as children are older and only need driving to and fro - in contact we stipulated driving grocery shopping laundry and errands - wouldn't dream of asking her to clean or change beds

And yes your expenses should be paid for - we go out of our way to "overpay" and provide more than expected so that she never ever feels taken advantage of

Happy nanny happy children happy life