to be extremely anmoyed

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I work fully time and my parents are kind enough to help me with after school care for my daughter. I have a sister who very rarely takes my dd. This week my sister's two kids were sick with d&v. She asked for my dd to go down to try perk up her kids who were pretty miserable. I picked my dd up and rang my mom and asked she doesn't go back there while the kids were sick as my dd is having a joint birthday party with her best friend today.

So of course the next day she gets sent down there again and you guessed it she is up all night throwing up.

So now I still have to pay for my half of the party 150 euros and my dd can't attend.

I am so cross I could scream. If my parents couldn't mind her for any reason I would have come straight home and why this week of all weeks would my sister ask go have her.

If course they are all making excuses now for how she ended up sick none of them including the very obvious one that she picked up a bug by hanging out with two sick toddlers for the last two days.

Sorry. X post.

Go APE SHIT

No christmas presents for them. Also, I would try getting them to pay you back for the party. Do you have other people to help you with childcare, as this pair sound a bit irresponsible tbh.

Why did they need perking up then, if they weren't sick? I wouldn't be happy either!

There is no way any of them will give me any money so I will just have to lie the loss of that. I don't exactly have it to throw away but I'm mostly upset about how my poor dd is gonna feel.

Not to dripfeed but we usually have a small family party and she was sick for that last year and was gutted when I had to cancel and do something just the two of us.

I would be furious if someone took either of my kids to 'perk up' other kids who clearly have a contagious bug!! At any time, never mind so close to her party. Such a shame for her. Very selfish of your sister to ask but ridiculously stupid of your parents to go along with it (not once but twice!!) It's hard when they are your free childcare but really, as her grandparents they should have known better!! If my kids are sick, I warn people away-not invite them round. I hope your daughter is not too upset

If you have d and v, you should keep clear of other people for at least 48 hours. This applies in all childcare settings and in some employment settings too. I would be extremely annoyed about this - more like fuming!

I am so sorry for your DD. I hope you and her can do something special.

Don't buy your your DPs and your sister and her family anything for Christmas and tell them you're going to spend the money on a treat for your daughter since they have put you in this position.

They can put your name on something for your sister's children that your sister or parents have bought for them, saying it's from you

Don't let them act outraged or offended. Remind them of their selfishness.

YANBU - they have been selfish bastards.

I hope your DD is better soon

I feel furious for you.
In the situation you describe where this is quite a special party, would she be able to go along and keep quietly off to one side, able to talk to some of her friends "at arms length" though not fully involved? Depends how ill she is and whether she'd find that harder than not going at all. And how sensible the other kids would be I guess too.

She has woken up and says she feels fine. I haven't mentioned the party yet. She is drinking fluids and keeping them down. I don't think it would be right to potentially infect up to 50 kids when I was so upset my dd got sick. The time of this sucks so bad

Yadnbu

Sick toddlers don't need their cousin to "perk them up" and even if they asked for her they should've been told no, you can see her when you're better.

Your sis and parents are idiots for allowing it. If your sister needed their help she should've been upfront and your parents should've asked you to rearrange childcare (or one go to dsis and one stay with your dc if both your parents were available)

Hope your DD feels better today