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Or is my midwife a bit shit?

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Heatherbell1978 · 03/12/2016 06:48

28 wks pregnant with DD1; I've moved house since having DS1 so a different mw and GP practice to last time and a few things are making me think my care has been a bit lacking especially as I'm a slightly older mum (39) (and obvs have last time to compare it to).
At my 8wk check mw spent 15 mins putting my blue folder together and gathering all the various Bounty and NHS packs before getting round to the questions which she raced through without asking how I was. I had no concerns so thought nothing of it at time.
4 weeks after 12wk scan it occurred to me I hadn't had my Downs test results and then when I chased she blamed the hospital but a few days later they arrived in the post with a post-it from GP reception apologising for not sending them earlier (they were dated 2 weeks prior).
Now my biggest worry is that she isn't putting a copy of my results in my blue folder. She's taking my blood pressure etc but I have no record of any of mine or baby's stats to look at in the folder. It just occurred to me last night that when I take my urine sample in I don't see what she then does with it and again, nothing in records. I had a urine infection with DS1 that went unnoticed by mw as she hadn't checked the test results properly but this time round I don't even know if she's sending them for testing!
It's also just occurred to me that I haven't received my certificate for free dental checks although that's least of my worries just now.

I feel fine but probably not quite as great as I did with DS1.

I have an appointment next week but before I go in all guns blazing, am I being precious about this and how would you tackle it?

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Heatherbell1978 · 04/12/2016 21:18

Thx for all the suggestions everyone; I'm definitely going to say something on Thursday at my appointment but just quite matter of fact like 'can I get a copy of all my results for my folder please?'. I'm assuming they're all recorded on her system although the urine is my biggest worry as she's not testing it when I'm there so will quiz that. Decided to get a private scan too not because I'm worried about anything in particular and baby is moving loads but it might help put my mind at ease after worrying about this for the past few weeksSmile

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Mindtrope · 04/12/2016 21:27

hackney-
I can guarantee that happened. Many of my friends have had really bad experiences with this same midwife, and she has had several formal complaints against her.
I don't give a shit if you don't believe me.

Heatherbell1978 · 08/12/2016 12:22

Hi all, thx for all your comments on this. So I had my appointment today with mw and it transpires that they only print off the results if a woman asks. They are all recorded in the system. So I just politely said I'd prefer to have a copy and she printed it off so all good. I also asked for a UTI test to be done as I had one missed at this stage last time with no symptoms and again she was happy to oblige. I do think the results should be printed as standard as not everyone would think to ask but I guess that's their policy.

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DailyFail1 · 08/12/2016 13:25

She needs to keep your notes up to date because there's no guarantee where you'll give birth, or if that hospital even has access to the same computerised system. If she's not you can file a complaint.

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