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AIBU?

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Nursery AIBU

17 replies

Fortybingowings · 02/12/2016 16:10

Grrrrr.
DD aged 3 is at afternoon pre-school nursery (15 hrs free per week as per our local council allowance)
She goes to a separate private nursery in the mornings for half of the week.
Just been told with less than 10 day's notice that staff at the state nursery want to take the the kids into a church Christmas play in town that's at 11.00 in the morning. No transport is provided. An adult is expected to attend from the family and there's then no afternoon nursery session!
So for working parents like us, this means we have to pay to book her in private nursery in the afternoon to cover the cancelled session and also DD can't go into town to the concert because of the short notice.
Grrrrr, just Grrrrrr

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DailyMailSucksAss · 02/12/2016 16:21

Sometimes you get what you pay for. In this case the care is free and they want to do something nice for the kids. Maybe some of the other working parents value the event enough to take a day off for it?

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Fortybingowings · 02/12/2016 16:25

Indeed. But with 10 days off it's impossible for us.
Mumsnet has become such a bitchy place. Sigh

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Neefs · 02/12/2016 16:28

I think 10 days notice isn't that bad, but I understand your frustration. Anyone else you can ask to go with DD? Family member?

EverdeRose · 02/12/2016 16:29

I agree Forty, while its a nice gesture I'd really struggle to get a day off with only 10 days notice no matter how much I valued the event.

Is there a family member who could attend with her, or if it's shift work you do a colleague who would be kind enough to swap.

LIZS · 02/12/2016 16:30

So she doesn't go as she isn't due to attend that session. As long as they will be back for your usual drop off time it won't matter.

LIZS · 02/12/2016 16:32

H sorry just read no pm session that day. Can her other nursery keep her longer?

bostonkremekrazy · 02/12/2016 16:53

you'll have to get used to it i'm afraid.

DD had her nursery trip today - she's afternoon session too - usually 1-3.30.
today's trip was 10am - 2pm.....and nursery was closed for the afternoon.

completely normal around holiday times etc. 10 days is pretty standard notice too - pretty good actually.

you could ask in the office at the beginning of the term for the dates in advance - they may have them well in advance and be willing to give them out to you.

brasty · 02/12/2016 17:05

Yes it is rubbish. We have to give a months notice - NHS. Any less will not be considered.

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Fortybingowings · 02/12/2016 17:10

NHS here too.
I think I'll have to try and do as boston suggests and try and get all such planned dates from the school office in advance.

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NellysKnickers · 02/12/2016 17:15

Unfortunately this is quite common. It's so hard juggling with work but by the time your dc is in high school will be a pro and/or they will understand you can't attend every single event

NickNacks · 02/12/2016 17:17

Who transports her from one nursery to the other at lunchtime?

Notso · 02/12/2016 17:23

Our school gives a list of dates for this kind of thing in September.
Also is there another parent going you could ask to take your child? I've done this a few times for working friends.

greenfolder · 02/12/2016 17:26

Is this your eldest/only? Take this as a gentle introduction to school life

bostonkremekrazy · 02/12/2016 19:15

I should have said i couldnt go today...dc went with another mum. I'll return the favour another time when it falls on her working day. Get to know the mums if you can, it really pays off in the years to come

allowlsthinkalot · 02/12/2016 22:49

Yes, it's par for the course with preschool I'm afraid. No transport was provided for dd's trip last year and an adult had to attend. Also it was completely inaccessible by public transport so as a non driver I couldn't take dd. Another parent took her for me. A few didn't go because parents are at work.

The thing is - pre school is education, not childcare. School concerts, sports days etc will usually be during the day too with less than a fortnight's notice.

allowlsthinkalot · 02/12/2016 22:50

Our school don't set the dates in advance so there's no way of getting them earlier here.

BackforGood · 02/12/2016 23:08

It is tricky, but I presume you must have someone to move her from the one Nursery to the other ? Also to have her on the mornings she isn't in the Nursery? Can't they help?
It does complicate things when you have dc in more than one setting, but it does seem to me this is a nice thing for the morning children to do, and they've managed to invite those afternoon dc that can go too, which is a positive thing.
It's a pain in the bum when you can't get to things with your dc because of work, but that's the life of a working parent I'm afraid. Doesn't mean they shouldn't do nice things for the dc though.
Oh, and 10 days notice is a lot compared with things once they get to school.

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