To plan a wedding alongside fertility treatment?

[isthismummy]

DP and I have decided that we would like to get married.

However we are also waiting to start IVF, which will most likely start in January next year. We have both male and female factor and have already accepted that this one and only NHS cycle is likely to be the start of a long, hard slog through private treatment.

AIBU/totally bonkers to want to get married in the same year we will be going through all this stress? We would quite like to be hitched by late Spring 2017 at the latest. We don't want anything big. Just a registry office do for less than 20 guests, followed by an afternoon tea reception in a nice hotel nearby.

I know nothing about weddings and all I ever seem to read about is what a nightmare they frequently turn out to be. I just really want to marry my DP and feel that we need something to look forward to as quite honestly we are both mainly dreading next year atm!

Sounds like a perfect idea to me.

Yes do it and enjoy it

Sounds great. Go for it.

I have had both a small wedding and IVF (in my case at completely different times in my life). Neither were a nightmare in my experience. Your plan seems completely doable. Good luck.

Weddings are only a nightmare if you turn them into a circus. Go and have your simple wedding, don't be pressurised into doing anything more. Enjoy yourselves and good luck xxx

Thank you for the positive responses everyone.

I really don't think it needs to be a massive drama. We don't want bridesmaids, best man , elaborate speeches etc.. We just want our nearest and dearest there to see us get hitched.

The biggest problem will be that nearly all my guests live up North and we are in London. Might just give them all the date and let them sort the rest out for themselves.