Fuck me, some people love to brag don't they?!

[lastcontestantontheapprentice]

AIBU?

One of our managers was in the office today banging on about Xmas, how they're going out today to buy a 20ft tree tomorrow (can you even get 20ft tree?), how they have 18 people for Xmas dinner and it's all so wonderful because of course they have room for a table for 18, how important it is to make an effort for 'the children'
(except their DC are well over 18).
It all sticks in the craw a bit, we've not had a proper pay rise for 5 years (I'm also paid £20k less than my male counterpart, but that's another story) and I just think, yes we know you get a 6 fig salary, do you really need to rub our noses in it?!

Same manager is putting some money towards our Xmas do, so now it's been agreed we should give £10-15 each for a present for them. Bloody hell!

..the thought being fuck off!

20 foot tree my arse. I have a twenty foot plum tree in the garden. It wouldn't fit in any house less than a stately home.

When DD1 was a baby and we were struggling with her lactose intolerance, my then boss airily informed me that her boy had had the same, so they bought a herd of goats!
She was actually lovely but had zero awareness of how the other half live so lots of people had daggers out for her.
She told one woman, who was late due to car breaking down, that she should leave her husband for not buying her a new one.

Hah Sleight that's reminded me of my previous workplace, a new dad (triplets) asked for a pay rise. Other than his good work and severe lack of recent increase, he explained that his family were struggling due to his wife having to give up her job to care for the children.

Managers helpful reply: why don't you get a FT nanny like I did?

I've got 18 for Christmas dinner but only a 7ft tree so I'm off the hook hopefully! It's not a stealth boast obviously as I don't have high enough ceilings for all that nonsense.
But I did get a 1% pay rise. Which has given me an extra £7 a month so clearly rolling in it here.

YANBU, it isn't just talking about plans and getting on with their lives is it?

It is not the mention of the tree-buying mission, but that it will be a 20ft one; and not that they will be having 18 people for dinner, but that they have such a big place that they have plenty of room for a table that sits 18 people. Oh and how important it is that they are doing all this, but they're not indulging themselves, oh no, they are only doing it for the children.

Bragging. Deffo. Vom.

I got a collection envelope left on my desk for a total dick I worked with.

Instead of contributing, I took some cash out and got myself a Freddo Frog from the canteen.

I'm not suggesting anyone else does the same oh yes I am but it felt great.

Well we are having 18 people over for our Christmas dinner before we go to our family. It isn't that glam though and I am absolutely dreading it. DH is doing the cooking and has been making stuff for weeks to put in the freezer. The liver pate makes me boak every single time I go near the freezer.

Oh and our home aint that big. We are putting the sofa against one wall and extending the table to stretch pretty much the whole length of the room. The second table is a folding table I found in the trash and bleached.

I don't do collections at work. Quite frankly if a partner wants to celebrate a milestone they can pay for it or approve that we hit up the client. I am not paying for birthday cakes or team events.

oh and you need to have a serious chat with your manager about your pay. I refuse to get paid less than my peers. I know I am paid exactly the same which still annoys me because I do so much more work than him.

Mrsmorton

dailymailsucksass please please tell me how on earth logically you can do dinner for 18 people every week?
I did 12 once and nearly had a meltdown!!!
I just can't do it haha

Your boss has no social sensitivity. Not impossible for someone to point out to her that there's been no payrise and that the paygap between m/f is unacceptable.

Don't contribute. Chances are that if she's given, say, a silk scarf she'll already have 'better' ones and will shunt yours onto a charity shop, and she'll also think that if everyone can afford to do that then you're obviously paid enough.

I bet there are more people than just you who don't want to contribute and need someone to say no to it publicly before they havethe courage to say no themselves.

IndibamBindi - it's horrid, have to start early on Saturday as everyone wants something different. So I lose my wknd basically. The only time I get a 'break' is christmas when I cook for my side of the family (10)- my side gets what they're given lol.