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Original poster

...To not give my 4 mo ebf baby custard creams?!

44 replies

shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:17

DP's dad thinks so.

Every time we see him he retells his anecdote of how he gave his other 4 month grandson custard creams when he was babysitting him and that he 'loved them' then his daughter started feeding them.

DP agrees custard creams aren't the way to go but still thinks it 'probably wouldn't hurt him'.

What can I say to stop this infuriating nagging to feed my gorgeous healthy baby crap!

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PinkyPie80 · 01/12/2016 21:21

A custard cream as in a biscuit?!? For a 4 month old???? YANBU!!

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 01/12/2016 21:22

I've got a dad like that. He just doesn't get solo care of DD.

Level75 · 01/12/2016 21:22

Haha! YANBU

Eevee77 · 01/12/2016 21:23

I'd be avoiding snacks like that for as long as possible. It can be a losing battle sometimes but not a chance I'd be introducing bloody custard creams at that age!

Soubriquet · 01/12/2016 21:23

Just tell them it's not reccomended that babies get food before 6 months anymore but as soon as she's old enough he can give her her first custard cream

Bearfrills · 01/12/2016 21:24

Just be firm that it isn't happening and make it clear that you'll be massively pissed off if it goes ahead when you've already said you don't want him to have one. I don't think it would do any harm per se, the risk of him choking on it would be my main concern, but no one should be pressuring you to feed your young baby food after you've already said no.

When DC1 was around 5mo I got grief off FIL about giving him Chinese food. He'd taken his 7mo other grandson to the Chinese buffet and the baby had apparently been "shovelling it in with both hands". Curry, rice, prawn crackers, the lot. So of course he wanted to repeat it with DC1 and was not impressed when we said he was too little for a Chinese buffet (and he actually was on solids at that age for various reasons so it wasn't a blanket 'no food' rule, more that we didn't think that particular food was suitable).

baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 21:28

Would he understand the science that regardless of how much a baby "likes it", their gut isn't closed until up to 6 months, and therefore particles of solids can escape into their system through the gut wall, potentially causing an immune response leading to lifelong sensitivities, allergies or intolerances??

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shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:29

Yes pinkiepie - actual custard cream biscuits!

It's all this 'so and so lived them and it didn't do him any harm' nonsense that really pisses me off. And the inference that I'm some how neurotic and over-the-top by saying 'no' to custard creams!

Soubriquet - that's a lovely, disarming thng to say. I'm actually going to use that.

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MetalMidget · 01/12/2016 21:29

Yeah, I'm pondering what our baby's first solid food will be in a few weeks (he's 4.5 months old now) - I can't say that custard creams are particularly high on the list!

Apartments from anything else, they're a shit biscuit that taste of austerity and sadness. Hob Nobs or GTFO.

MetalMidget · 01/12/2016 21:31

Apartments? Apart! That'll teach me for posting whilst breastfeeding...

AndShesGone · 01/12/2016 21:31

My puppies 16 weeks old and I wouldn't give her a custard cream HmmGrin

He's a daft twat

MsVestibule · 01/12/2016 21:33

I got this when my DCs were babies. One relative said I was cruel for saying I didn't want to give her sugary food until she was at least a year old. She was happy munching on a rice cake when we ate a biscuit with our tea!

My dad was appalled that my DD was still on purées when she was 7 months (this was just prior to BLW becoming a thing). Apparently she should have been eating steak and chips by then.

Do you think he will try to sneak some to him?

LifeLong13 · 01/12/2016 21:33

Metal YABVVU custard creams are the biscuits of the Gods!

However not for a 4 month old.

ICJump · 01/12/2016 21:33

The next time I have a custard cream I just know all I'll taste is austerity and sadness

CockneyViv · 01/12/2016 21:38

My parents were desperate to give dd her first piece of chocolate. I was asked if they could buy her a selection box fit Xmas. She'll be 18 months ffs.

Incidentally there's no way my dd could have eaten a custard cream 12 months let alone 4 months

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shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:39

Metal midget - lol at your custard cream description

Bear frills - that's the stuff of nightmares! Think of the salt and the MSG. I'd sooner give DS2 a pack of Jammy Dodgers than that. What is the obsession some members of that generation have with feeding babies that.

baconandedgies - I am going to say that to DP at least - who himself has a rare and near fatal allergy yo onions. Maybe he had a taste of Custard Creams from his dad at 4mo!

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MommaGee · 01/12/2016 21:43

I read that as custard creams you'd make yourself with expressed breast milk and wanted to feed your 4 year old son. Apparently I need sleep

Yanbu, just tell him Ltd not recommend and furthermore he's your child and you said no

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shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:46

MisVestibule - I'm not risking it. He's not babysitting lol.

Steak and chips at 7 months?! It's definitely a generation thing. No wonder the UK has so many unhealthy people.

My dad's partner said it was the norm to bottle feed watered down cans of condensed milk to babies back in her day.

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shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:49

MommaGee - maybe I should fashion my own custard creams out of organic baby rice and breastmilk to shut him up!

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DailyMailSucksAss · 01/12/2016 21:51

Maybe if you made the custard with breast milk, otherwise stick with chocolate digestives.

MetalMidget · 01/12/2016 21:53

LifeLong13 Ppffft, I bet you like bourbons too. And UHT milk. And rationing.

LifeLong13 · 01/12/2016 21:57

Metal I HATE milk and no I don't like Bourbons..........but I do like ginWink

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shiredweller76 · 01/12/2016 21:59

Custard creams personally remind me of church-run toddler groups and blood donation. I like them with tea - but that's not the point.

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squiggleirl · 01/12/2016 22:00

Not sure why your baby being ebf is relevant here. If he was formula fed it would be just as unacceptable.

Bearfrills · 01/12/2016 22:05

I think the OP used ebf as a quick way of saying that the baby isn't yet on any sort of solid food. His diet is exclusively milk (breast, in this case).