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to be annoyed about being stood up

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pregnantat50 · 01/12/2016 21:06

I have a friend that keeps hinting they want more than friendship. I have developed feelings towards him and over the last few weeks we have been progressing things. The thing that annoys me though is he is always late or letting me down, normally I forgive him as there are very valid reasons but he is incredibly disorganised as well

Anyway today to make it up to me he invited me to a show his son is performing in. I suggested I call round at 6.30 and we leave then.

His son emailed me to say his dad is running late and will pick me up from my flat at 7, I replied that I would wait by the parking area so we get to the show on time.

I stood outside from 10 to 7 until 7.37 in the cold. Came indoors and found he had emailed me at 6.47 to ask if I got his sons email about meeting at 7 and then another one at 7.35 saying "I guess your not coming then" I noticed a car that looked like his drive past me at one point.

So he basically didn't pick me up and then pretended I was in the wrong. I am so disappointed that he cant be on time or even apologise for his lateness.

Am I being unreasonable in messaging him not to call round tonight after the show as I am really angry and need to calm down. I think the main problem is I am punctual, early even and he would be late to his own funeral.

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pregnantat50 · 03/12/2016 11:16

yes he is hard work, he also told me about two girls that chatted him up, one asked him if he was homeless as he was wearing an anorak at a club...he said he replied "I can be anything you want me to be". I said that was you chatting them up not the other way round. He didn't agree and said they checked his hand for a wedding ring, asked his name etc.., I said, "just why do you want to share this with me?" His response "you should trust me, I should be able to share things like this with you"...I said "ok then so if I reply "I can be anything you want me to be" to a man chatting me up, then its OK and I should then tell you all the details"

Weirdos, why do I attract them?

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pregnantat50 · 03/12/2016 11:18

and no, I'm not pregnant, had a scare and came on here for advice but I am just going through the menopause, I guess I should name change

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Sweets101 · 03/12/2016 11:23

He sounds like really hard work. And that's putting it politely.

expatinscotland · 03/12/2016 11:23

He's a mind fucking wannabe player. FUCK that for a game of soldiers. Being late, standing you up, driving by and then driving off, his complete cock and bull story of being chatted up at a club (PMSL! Yeah, right, in his dreams).

And this:
"Your right it was a family gathering & I wanted you to join me. I am sorry. I just don't want anyone to be upset. Still friends"

I don't know about you, but I'd never treat my friends like this.

So I'd write back, 'No, actually not. Think I've seen enough of your true colours and I don't like what I see. I need to spend more time on real friends, so don't contact me any further. Goodbye.'

And you block.

harderandharder2breathe · 03/12/2016 11:34

Sounds like he's complicating things unnecessarily and still not accepting responsibility for his own part.

And WHY would he tell you about 2 girls if he's progressing things with you? It's either stupid and thoughtless fuckery or mind game fuckery and TBH youre better off without either.

Aeroflotgirl · 03/12/2016 11:38

Op he sounds really awful, run for the hills. Your best off away from all that.

MagicMarkers · 03/12/2016 11:44

I once saw my uncle getting ready for a date with a long time girlfriend. He was due to meet her and was still watching the cricket, then he went to have a shower, watched some more cricket before leaving. He was meeting her at a train station not at her house. It was horribly disrespectful of her and basically he didn't care that he was leaving her standing at a station.

Don't put up with that sort of behaviour. People, who are regularly late, do it because they don't care about the trouble they cause other people.

Pineapplemilkshake · 03/12/2016 11:49

He sounds like he'd be too much hard work to be in a relationship with, sorry.

As Huck said - he's showing you who he is - i.e. he's demonstrating his lack of punctuality and what you will likely have to put up with again and again. I'd hate to be on edge every time arrangements were made, in case he was going to cancel or be late. I'm afraid it would only happen once, if I were you.

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/12/2016 11:55

Ugh! Is he 12?? What on earth could you possibly find attractive about someone so emotionally immature?

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