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Original poster

To be annoyed by this neighbour

35 replies

user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:21

I've just had a knock on the door. Local postie asked me to take in a parcel for a hour 5 doors down as per 'the note on the door'.

I obviously looked confused as he asked if I knew them. (Nope, other than taking in the occasinal parcel over the last few years I wouldn't know him if I walked past them.)

The postie said he'd take it back the depo and I suggested I investigate the note. The cheeky lot have taped a note to their door directing all parcels to us.

Spoke to my husband who works from home and it turns out we've had a parcel delivered for them every day this week (except the one returned today) and a few last week.

On the basis the question. AIBU to go scribble out our house number on the note or stick a PA letter through the door stating we are not the local collection point?

For reference we do normally take in parcels for neighbours directly around us but I feel this is taking the piss especially when they've not even asked.

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Original poster
user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:22

*house not hour

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Allthebestnamesareused · 01/12/2016 16:26

It is cheeky but if it was me if I were in I would just take it in.

Perhaps next time do that then put a note through their door saying parcel at ours but off travelling for 2 months so please collect on 1 Feb!

Flippetydip · 01/12/2016 16:28

That is a total cheek. I would confront them about it. I work from home and am forever taking people's parcels in and occasionally people ask if they can leave a note for the postie to say leave with me but they do ask first, not just assume!!

baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 16:28

Ywbu to scribble on the note or write a pa letter - if they have been turning up at the door and meeting your DH all smiles for the past week or so, then they would have assumed that he was happy to do it.

Just let them know that you do not want to take parcels in for them any more. You don't need to be snarky about it.

Sirzy · 01/12/2016 16:29

If you are sure they didn't ask your husband then I would put a note through asking them to remove the note.

PJBanana · 01/12/2016 16:30

Really, really cheeky. YANBU.

It would be ok if they asked you first. It would also be ok if it was just one or two parcels.

I'd make a point to reject any parcels for them from now on if it were me. Sounds petty but I just don't think that's on at all.

Original poster
user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:31

I did offer to take this one in (would have been a good opportunity to address the issue) but the postie said he would take it back as we hadn't agreed / unaware of the note.

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CookieLady · 01/12/2016 16:32

Don't put a note through their door. Either speak to them or reject all future deliveries.

mrscarrotironfoundersson · 01/12/2016 16:35

They don't even know you! You could be a high class diamond thief, or have a pet that takes every opportunity to scratch or pee on something new in their house (happened to me once, neighbour was very upset until we explained it was some plastic buckets, no harm done!)

What will you do OP? Put another note on your door saying no thanks to No 5 parcels?

Original poster
user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:35

I've spoken to my husband and he is adamant that he didn't okay the note. He thinks he may have mentioned he worked from home but in a passing comment rather than a 'you're welcome to have your parcels redirect to here'.

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Wren1975 · 01/12/2016 16:37

As you don't know them, it is fairly cheeky. It's not worth falling out over though so I wouldn't bother confronting them. Just start refusing parcels. Your neighbours will soon get the message and pick another house as their delivery point Smile

OracleofDelphi · 01/12/2016 16:38

Just say "no Im sorry I dont take parcels for other people" .... checking bastards. Once all their parcels get undelivered slips they will soon stop doing it.

flumpybear · 01/12/2016 16:40

I'd just take the note off the door if it's a pain - they should have asked, and they should bring a bottle of wine round or something to make sure they're being neighbourly and thanking you for your trouble

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user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:41

baconandeggies just because we've been pleasant about handing them over does not give them the right to assume it is okay to put a note up redirecting mail.

mrscarrotironfoundersson I'd be happy to just stop taking them in but that won't stop people trying and interupting my husband so I think we will have to ask them to remove the note

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Lorelei76 · 01/12/2016 16:41

ooh never tell neighbours that you have any work at home days!

I think it was very rude of them, yes. I would pop round, make sure no misunderstanding and say you don't take parcels for others.

NotYoda · 01/12/2016 16:43

That's very rude of them. I feel very embarrassed when they delivery to a particular neighbour if I have not specified that

When they come to collect, tell them that you would have like to have been asked. The- if they are not suitably sorry, tell them you won't be taking i in any more parcels for them (or if you don't want confrontation, just ignore the postie when he knocks)

It's possible the postman isn't telling the truth

jerryfudd · 01/12/2016 16:44

I don't mind taking parcels in generally but this would annoy me - the cheek. I'd be inclined to leave a note on my door saying only accepting deliveries for your own address. That should teach them

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user1471508896 · 01/12/2016 16:46

I've been for a walk the note definitely there and well taped the postie wasn't lying.

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NotYoda · 01/12/2016 16:49

That's taking a liberty

What do you think you'll do then? (I quite like a note of your own on your door if you don't want to confront them as jerryfudd says)

WatchingFromTheWings · 01/12/2016 16:50

Put a notice on your own door 'we do not receive parcels for number x'.

pepperpot99 · 01/12/2016 16:56

I would tape a note to their door saying "Sorry, as we do not know you we are not accepting parcels for you". From no 10 (or whatever house number you are).

They are taking the piss and if you don't do something it will only carry on!!

WonderMike · 01/12/2016 16:56

Yeah put a note on your door! Cheeky liberty taking butt holes Hmm

specialsubject · 01/12/2016 16:58

there is no need for this. There are lockers at garages and stations where parcels can be delivered (yes, even outside London). Parcels can be delivered to work addresses.

or people could order less over-packaged crap....but there is still no need to have it dumped on the neighbour.

tell them 'your disorganisation is not my crisis'.

baconandeggies · 01/12/2016 17:00

just because we've been pleasant about handing them over does not give them the right to assume it is okay to put a note up redirecting mail.

No indeed, but your AIBU was about your next steps and whether you should write them a passive aggressive letter...

Just politely inform them that you won't be able to take in any more parcels. Keep your side of the street clean, as it were.

Certainly don't go to their level and scribble on the note.

CocktailQueen · 01/12/2016 17:01

And you don't even know them?! Cheeky, cheeky and rude.
YANBU!"

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