Honeymoon date and job clash

[KellysZeros]

My DH and I were married last year but delayed our honeymoon because he had to start a new job and we moved to a new city. In that time, he has booked off 3 weeks of work in the New Year, and as well as settling in to the new town have been looking for work. We haven't booked any tickets yet.

I've been now been offered work (on a short term contract basis) and they'd like me to start at the start of January.

This is a bit of a WWYD as well as an AIBU. I saw this clash coming but DH wants to go on honeymoon. Because of the short term nature of this work, I want to be keen to start and it's a good opportunity.

Who is BU here - my DH who wants to stick to the dates, or me, who wants to secure my job first? Or WWYD? Delay job and go on honeymoon?

It's not that interesting an AIBU, but thought I might bump it

How short term a job is it? Is it likely to lead to a more permanent position? Have you asked whether there is flexibility in the start date (eg. if it is for a one off project)? Are there likely to be other positions available?

Is your DH able to get that length of time off again or is the 3 weeks a one off.?

Personally I'd probably go for the honeymoon (or it might never happen) unless money was so tight that I needed the short term position in which case I'd wait and have a better honeymoon later.

Probably not helpful and I can see why you have a dilemma. Maybe answering the above questions will help clarify matters.

well if you delayed it once for his job, he should be agreeable to delaying it again for yours.

It sounds like a silly small amount of work but it's a 1 month freelance work that is quite likely to expand as it's tied to some funding. It is potentially a good opportunity, but he works very hard and does deserve a break. But I also am keen to get my career going in this new city.

I've not been very explicit yet about asking about the flexibility in the start date because of wanting to look keen.

Indeed, I'd go for the job, especially if it might lead on to other things. Your working life been disrupted by the move, I'd focus on getting sorted before any big (or small) holiday.

People wonder why women tend to earn less than their partners, don't fall into that trap. Start as you man to go on, prioritising your career. All the very best.

How far advanced are the holiday plans? Will you lose money on flights / bookings? That would also be a consideration for me.

however, I would also explore the possibility of a later start (if they say they really like you).

So far, the only thing booked is my DH's time off