Wanting another baby

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I am hoping to get some views on my situation.

I met my DP over 3 years ago he is 48 and I am 33. After my last relationship ended I always wanted to meet someone, fall in love and have another baby. I've ticked off 2 of these :)

He currently has an 11 year old and I a 15 year old with our ex's. After numerous conversations my DP has come around to the idea of having another baby and we have started the process of talking to a specialist, as I have PCOS getting pregnant comes with difficulties.

Being 33 I feel that I am still at a great age to have another child again, however my DP has his reservations due to age. Am I being unreasonable to him and our new child to go down this path at his age? I don't see him as old he is very good for his age and he is a great father.

Should I seriously consider giving up on my dream to have another baby?

I love my DP very much and the want to have another baby is very strong.

My DH and I are older than you and your DH and I'm having our first in one week. It's not really about age, it's about whether your DH really wants this

It's about whether you can provide a good childhood for your proposed child.

How is your dh's health? Does he look after himself?

Does he have the energy for a baby and toddler?
Will he have energy for a teenager in his 60s?
If his health declines will you have the energy and resources to cope?
Do you have the money and time for another child? Will this delay his retirement?

'Too old' is different for everyone.

I felt to old to have anymore kids at 29. I had my first and second, in my twenties and didn't want to spend my thirties with small babies.

You had a child young but want another. That's fine too. We are all just feel different.

However I think it's rarely a good idea to have a baby with someone who isn't sure. Obviously accidents happen. But planning a baby with someone who isn't completely on board can cause relationship issues further down the line.

His age would worry me, have a pre schooler at 50 would be too much for many.

However the biggest concern would be his reluctance, it sounds like he doesn't actually want this but is being talked into it. Making someone else a parent who doesn't actually want to be is wrong.