I have 3DC, 1 from first marriage, 2 with DH, eldests is 15, youngest is 8. Honestly, I wasn't bothered either way about having any more DC after DC1, but DH really wanted them, and I can't imagine now not having had them. DH has always wanted more, but I had bad postnatal psychosis after DC3 and didn't want the risk of having that again, so it's even been an option.
The past month or so, DH has been talking a lot about how he wishes we had another baby. I'm in my early forties and there is now way I'm having another. I've told him this every time he's mentioned it to not give him any false hope, but he keeps going on and on about it until this morning we had an argument when he said it wouldn't hurt to have another baby and I basically told him he was free to have another DC but it wouldn't be with me. He told me I wasn't being fairly since I have 3DC and he doesnt and stormed off. He hasn't really spoken to me since.
I'm really shocked that he would say that, he's always treated DC1 as his own. He took himself off to be after he put DC to bed, and wont speak to me though I've tied. Am I really a terrible person for not wanting another child? I had such a horrific time with DC3 as a newborn, I feel like I'm too old and honestly, I don't see any appeal in having another.