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AIBU?

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WIBU to unload my shopping?

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TheRavensFeather · 30/11/2016 20:54

In Asda today. ExDH and I.

Basket with 2 x pizza and 2 teddies. Walking along tills and cashier is saying goodbye to customer. No one else there. Walk to till and see a lanyard thing there. Lady pulls in behind us with one a (small) trolley full of shopping and says 'excuse me! I put my card down to reserve this till'

I just looked at her and unloaded my 4(!) Items.

She said 'well that's not very nice! My card is there!'

DH says 'well I'll just pass it back to you' hands it over
Her - "i have a child here!"
DH - "I have 3 that I need to collect from school"
Her "he is sick! Home from school"
DH - "we're not playing top trumps"
Her "If you dont ask you dont get and besides that's incredibly mean of you to do this when my son is ill"

Son was running about till asking DH why he has 4 kids. (DH said even he doesn't know the answer to that)

Were we being unreasonable?

I was a bit gobsmacked. She was very sure that she was in the right.

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Inertia · 30/11/2016 21:53

Ooh, I've got a lanyard.

What other queues can I jump?

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TheRavensFeather · 30/11/2016 21:54

Inertia try using it at airport security. (And report back)

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notaflyingmonkey · 30/11/2016 21:55

Maybe it's like a Q-Bot system in Legoland? You can pay a premium for it, and you get your space at the till reserved.

Can I market this?

Itwillbefine · 30/11/2016 22:05

What's a lanyard?!

SunshineEyren · 30/11/2016 22:06

Also wondering what a lanyard is, and where I can get one to start reserving my till

MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity · 30/11/2016 22:06

A lanyard is usually a work ID card on a fabric ribbon to hand round your neck, right?

MrGrumpy01 · 30/11/2016 22:09

Now if she was just nice, she would have waved you through with a 'you've only a bit, do you want to go in front?'

That way you make someone's day and you don't get yourself in a rage about someone going through in the time it takes you to unload anyway.

Maybe this is just Aldi behaviour though.

A lanyard could be useful in somewhere like Starbucks.

MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity · 30/11/2016 22:10

Itwillbefine, I'm sure the crazy woman's lanyard probably said "Asda Priority VIP shopper"

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TheRavensFeather · 30/11/2016 22:11

Yup. Ribbon with a card attached.

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user1468353179 · 30/11/2016 22:12

I had a similar experience in ASDA. A man stepped in front of me at the till although he had no shopping, but as I started to unload my trolley he shouted to the woman coming up behind me that he'd saved a space. I totally ignored him and carried on

Itwillbefine · 30/11/2016 22:16

I had one the other day that just as I was about the line up my trolley she came from the other direction, ie the 'out' end.

elephantoverthehill · 30/11/2016 22:19

3 deep in the queue at Tesco, the woman in the front noticed the man behind only had 2 items, so she ushered him in front of her. Simple politeness. And relax.

EweAreHere · 30/11/2016 22:27

FlappysMammyAndPopeInExile · 30/11/2016 22:30

Absolutely, MrGrumpy and elephant. I have done this. I have had this courtesy extended to me. It takes the hell out of shopping.

I was unloading about £500 worth of shopping (and still nothing for tea) quite a bit one time, and a man stood behind me with a bottle of wine. I offered to let him go before me. He was both astonished and pathetically grateful. He was a southerner. Do they do "you've only got a newspaper go before me" there? It seems a new concept to him.

Fluffyears · 30/11/2016 22:32

We were in Aldi unloading trolley onto conveyor when woman behind just out her shopping right behind our stuff without waiting for us to finish. We ran out of space so I just shoved her stuff down the belt with my arms. People are nuts!

CotswoldStrife · 30/11/2016 22:36

Perhaps these pushy shoppers think there is a system like a Disney Fast Pass - scan when you get in and you get a time to return but you still have to queue anyway

She's lucky the lanyard didn't disappear inside the belt. I'd just think someone had dropped it!

RubbishMantra · 30/11/2016 22:38

Reminds me of "baggsying" seats at school!

SabineUndine · 30/11/2016 22:38

I once had a woman push in front of me at a till cos she only had one thing and I had a trolley full. Sounds reasonable except she could have gone to one of the checkouts for people with five things or fewer and been second in the queue, but she didn't choose to. She chose to push in front of me. If she'd asked, I wouldn't have minded but she didn't ask. Short of wrestling her to the floor, there was no way of stopping her.

sm40 · 30/11/2016 22:40

If I am not in too much of a rush I'll always let someone with 2 or 3 items in front of me. However backfired the other day when lady I let through paid in loose change!! Anyway I've received the karma back and been allowed in front several times. Interesting only seem to have this in Aldi or lidl! And I am in London. However does seem to be the done thing and makes everyone happy!
As for reserving a till. It's just not done!

FlappysMammyAndPopeInExile · 30/11/2016 22:50

I went into Aldi and couldn't find what I wanted. The only way out was via the till. There was a woman unloading her shipping order stuff and I said "Excuse me - can I just go through? I don't have any shopping, I just want to get out."

SHE WOULDN'T LET ME! And the -half-wit girl on the till wouldn't do anything either. I had to stand there like a lemon until she paid and bagged up all of her shite-- shopping.

Luckily I was heavily medicated in a good mood and found it funny.

brightnearly · 30/11/2016 22:53

There ought to be a system where you need to reserve a till at a specific time slot upon entering a supermarket.

That would be fun.

Galdos · 30/11/2016 23:10

Reserving a place on a till? That's a bit mental isn't it? One thing to rush off and get a forgotten item while the cashier scans (or idles), but a weird game to 'reserve' a till.

I've never encountered this in Waitrose, Tesco, Morrisons or Sainsburys, Like sm40, I have benefitted from those in front allowing me first when I have only a few items, and I have done the same in reverse: however this never works in Waitrose for some reason, and where able bodied couples routinely park in disabled/mother-and-child spaces too. I had a terrible row in a Waitrose carpark once with a youngish male wanker who parked in a kiddy space when I had twins in my arms and had had to park further away. He said he was in a rush to go to hospital to see his girlfriend who was seriously ill, but I knew that was a lie as at the time my OP was terminally ill and I knew the allowed visiting times off by heart. I didn't manage to hit him, mainly because I had a twin on each arm, but I was as furious as furious can be!

As a general rule of thumb (so easily disprovable by anecdote) the more 'bargain' the supermarket the nicer and more accommodating are the customers, and the more premium the supermarket the more insufferable the customers.

Ditsy4 · 30/11/2016 23:12

Raven

his answer to ...four kids made me LOL!

I think you will find she is related to the man at the car park...find other thread! Possibly the daughter!

Parkourbench · 30/11/2016 23:21

The nerve! Might get me one of those lanyards

Last week DH was halfway through unloading a mega shop onto the conveyor and random bloke tried using a Jedi mind trick to go first. He put his bottle of wine on the belt after DH and sad loudly. "It's ok you can go before me. "
DH was like well yeah I know I've been here ten minutes

We do regularly let folk go first but being told to brings out the stubborn in me.

Also like poster ^^ I've seen people doing the standing in a parking space thing and frankly they deserve to be run over

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