To ask if your NOT scared of death?

[Panickingtoosoon]

I'm utterly petrified of what might be beyond this life, but presumably others have reasons they don't fear an afterlife - why not?

I'm not afraid of dying. Life has been too hard and I believe My soul will be at peace when my body gives up. I try to do no wrong to others and have no guilt.
I do worry about a violent or slow death though. That would be awful.

Elsa. A fucking huge hug to you right now.

Your born into the world. You live. You die . You are no more. End off.

But have a bloody good time while your here and stop freaking worrying about it anyway:)!

for Elsa and Expat. There are no words.

I don't fear death. I know there is an afterlife, I know I have been there before, and I know it is where I will get to see my loved ones. I am a 'natural medium', in that I have been able to see and hear 'dead' people all my life. It makes for some scary experiences as a child, and some coming to terms with the fact that you are markedly 'different' to most people, but it is a real comfort to know we continue after physical death.

I'm not afraid of death, because i've suffered so terribly with MH issues at one point it was a fall back comfort as a way out of a living hell. It's crazy to think back now, when i have absolutely no desire to die, how i used to long for it as a release. I admit though, suicide is something i couldn't do. Not only could i not intentionally hurt my dad like that, but whilst i'm not a believer in any religion, they all teach suicide is the un forgiveable sin and a one way ticket to hell. I can't help having that "but what if" thought regarding suicide incase it turns out my none belief is wrong and i condemn myself, but the actual act of dying i'm not afraid of.

I am so sorry to those on here who have lost loved ones.
I am not so much afraid of the process of dying. I am afraid of having a degenerative condition like dementia, where I won't know my own mind. And I am terrified of the thought of never seeing my own loved ones ever again.

I'm not scared of death at all. I don't see the need to be. When it's your turn, it's your turn. No point worrying

No. I'm far more scared of being very old, having lost my my faculties and spent my pension.

I don't believe in an afterlife.

No reason to be scared of death. Onlt thing in our lives that is inevitable.
I can't really understand why you would be afraid tbh.
Either - you have a faith which means you will have eternal life / go to heaven / be reincarnated
or
You don't have a faith in which case you will just cease to exist. Your brain does not function so there is no pain or no emotion to be processed.
So, whichever you think, there's nothing to be afraid of.

Now, I am worried about not being allowed to die when I choose to, and being left to deteriorate out of my life in a slow, lingering way.

When I watched my Dad die I realized that there are far, far worse things than death. It is often a relief. Some kinds of suffering make death look like a warm hug. I think what we fear underneath the fear of death is abandonment/loneliness. The thought of a lonely death is frightening.

Staring down the barrel of a bad diagnosis here atm, which has focused the mind greatly on this subject. Not scared - I think because I have so little control over how things play out - but sad, desperately sad, at the possibility of having to leave the room without seeing my children grow up. And strangely, randomly scared about the possibility of being alone when the moment comes, which had never occurred to me before. And scared of a shit death, brain mets, being out of it on morphine, loved ones traumatised, etc. I (want to) believe in reincarnation, and take a lot of comfort from the fact that at the very least I will be fully recyclable.

A few years ago I had a general anaesthetic. One moment I was talking to the doctor; the next I was coming round in recovery. The intervening time - five hours - was just missing. I imagine death will be much the same, but without the waking up part. Nothing to be afraid of.
The thing I am afraid of is that if I die before my wife, it will be like I'm abandoning her, but if she dies first that will be unfair because she's younger than me and deserves a bit more time.

MrsLupo. I'm so sorry 💐 I'm unclear whether it's confirmed bad or possibly bad, but I wish you the best of what could possibly be xx

My6 year old was asking about death and somehow I said that I would die before her, but only when I was very very old. That still seemed harsh, so I added, but I will miss you.

She replied, no you won.'t, you won't have a brain anymore or exist.

That made me very sad. I don't want to outlive my children, but I don't want to leave them behind.

I'm a bit afraid, but I get less afraid as I get older. When I was a child I was completely terrified, and when I was a young adult I was still quite scared, and now that I am middle-aged I just feel slightly worried.

This gives me hope that if I reach old age, I won't mind the prospect of death at all. I have heard many old people say that they aren't too bothered about dying any more, though it's true that some old folks are still afraid.

PanickingTooSoon

I think you need to find someone to talk to, someone who understands both your upbringing & your thoughts about 'no proof' now, but that lingering worry. It's understandable that you are scared, find help 💐

Me, I don't worry. I hope there is a life after this, I'm kind of counting on it, people have died who I strugggle to live without & the thing that keeps me going is the thought of seeing them again 'afterwards'. In someways I know I'm kidding myself, but I choose to, if that makes any sense,

Either there's 'something' and it'll be an utterly amazing reunion or there's nothing & I won't know about it.

There being something awful isn't something I've ever thought about - I don't have a religious bone in my body, so hell (or anything else) just doesn't figure. Im working on the theory that this is as bad as it gets, anything else is going to be lovely & filled with people I love & miss 😊

I am terrified of the dying process, but being dead - not so much.

I hate the idea of getting old and incapacitated and not being able to take care of myself. I'm not afraid of death, I believe that it is the finality and there's nothing beyond it. And if there is, I will find out, fear or no fear.

Im scared of the dying part - with good reason as its highly likely to be a heart attack OR, slowly drowning in my own fluids from heart failure.

Im not remotely worried about any afterlife shizzle - if there is one, ok, if there isn't, meh, etc etc.

I am concerned with getting all the things I want done, done, before I kick the bucket and given my lifespan is predicted at under 10 years I now have a newfound appreciation for what genuinely old people actually deal with.

If you'd have asked me that question 8 years ago the answer would have been quite different as I was then petrified id drop dead at any second... i still could but you just cannot maintain that level of terror for very long!

I have died twice and survived. Never experienced anything unusual at all, no out of body experience. What it did teach me is to respect the hell out of the people in your life and tell them, show them. I was always a guarded person, never touchy feey, except with my children.

After the last episode, I made sure everyone knew when it was just us. I was tactful, not in your face, well I hope not. I am not frightened. If anything the only thing about death that worries me is how my children or husband would cope if I go first. We are phenomenally close. I just have to trust they will get each other through it.

It makes no sense.

In fearing death so much you are actually destroying your life,
Why waste the thing that you claim is so precious.

Not scared of being dead. Scared of how I may die, though.

You die. End of. Nothing to be scared of.

Until anyone finds me prove to the contrary, then I'll stick to the facts