To ask if you wish you had had more kids?

[Mummyyummy2012]

Don't get me wrong- I feel extremely lucky to have my 2 beautiful children!
But I have a yearning for one more baby but I'm too old now at 43 nearly 44.
Or is this a peri menopausal last ditch hormonal thing?!
Aibu to feel a bit sad that my child bearing days are over!

I would love a third but it wouldn't be sensible for us from a financial point of view. I know there's probably time later on as I'm 26 but who knows. It just feels like a third would complete everything.

Oh I know how you feel. I have 2 but always wanted 3. No. 3 didn't happen - initially because I just wouldn't have coped with a third (when ds2 was a toddler fi) and then later because dh got cold feet. I've accepted it now and financially I think 3 may have sunk us (not when they were little but thinking ahead to supporting through uni etc). 43 was hard, hard, hard though. I knew it was our last chance and letting that go was painful - starting again with a baby wouldn't have bothered me at all. Now a few years on in the fact that it is too late has really helped.

I am the same as you OP! 43/44, two DCs (5 and 2) and would love a third. DH thinks it's a very bad idea and rationally I agree with him. Risks increase with age, I had HG during both previous pregnancies, we'd struggle to cope with the baby years again, DD has some demanding health needs, etc....but BABY!!!!!

Am so glad I am not the only one- is it a last ditch hormone thing do you think?

Could be hormonal. My hormones have gone utterly nuts over the past few months (early 40s). I'm not broody but it's like my body's sensing my fertility is on the decline and is going all out ramping up my libido to get me pregnant. It's driving me mad

I have 3, youngest 16, very very very relieved DH wouldn't go for the number 4 I was desperate for.

Nope. I'll take the libido but there's no way on God's green earth I'd have another baby. There is nothing I want less! Mr Elbows was snipped 10 years ago after number 3 so it's not an issue really.

I have three and thought I was done by my early thirties.

Then in my early forties all I could think about was having another baby. Thankfully DH had a vasectomy after DC3 so I couldn't, but I really think it was my hormones going crazy.

I'm pleased to report it's all settled down now & the desire to have another has gone.

I have three sons.

Last night I dreamed I gave birth to a daughter. It wasn't completely clear whether this was a surprise or not but I was very matter-of-fact about it. The only annoyance was that people kept asking what her name was and I couldn't find DH to confirm that he was happy with the name we had previously chosen before I told people.

Catherine Helen Charlotte (Kitty)

I don't think it's real for me, but then when I'd had DC3 I felt very strongly that I was done. It was different from the feeling I had when ttc and mc after DC2 that two was ok but I still wanted a third.

I am genuinely very very done but it doesn't sound like you are. I'm delighted my child bearing days are over.

I'd love to have a child. Broody on a daily basis! But complex health issues mean I have to be sensible, much as I absolutely hate it! (Am 34 - you mean I've got another decade feeling like this??)

DH and I had always planned to have 2. He was sent off to the 'snipper' after #2 and I think the finality of this knocked any ideas of a third on the head.

Whenever he mentioned a third I, mostly jokingly, reminded him I'd need a new boyfriend for that to happen.

I wanted another after 2 (thus the username). We agreed we would stop, but it didn't stop me yearning. Then found myself unexpectedly pregnant at 40 with my 3rd (mini-pill failure), and I was delighted after the initial shock. DH was not as horrified as I'd expected. So now we have a bonus baby, who is wonderful, and I have no regrets. Before her I felt we were incomplete. Now I am very happy to be well and truly done. All yearning has gone.

Although I do still get the occasional fleeting regret that I will never be pregnant/ give birth/ breastfeed again. They were precious times.

My youngest is 10 now and I am glad we stopped at 2.
There was a short time when I was broody for another but I can honestly say my baby days are done. A 3rd would have been too many for us and I feel my family is complete.

Nope.

I'm 35 and I'm done with having babies.
All a bit overrated for me
Let me tell you, in hindsight, two is just enough (imo obviously)

Also the planets so overpopulated. I never considered this before having our third but there are DC out there desperate for homes.

No, I've 3 and I never wanted a fourth. From the minute dd3 was born I just knew I was done. Everything she didn't need anymore/outgrew was immediately passed on to someone else without a moments hesitation. She's 5 now (I'm 42) and I've not once had an inkling for another, not even a passing sigh when I've had a hold of a baby.

I had that yearning quite strongly for few years after having my second, but then it passed, and am now very glad we stuck to two. Not that there's anything wrong with larger families, came from one myself and very happy, but this was right for us.

My third nearly broke me. Wasn't most sensible decision iv made. I adore him but it was tough.

I still yearn in my heart for a 4th but my others kids would suffer, I wouldn't cope and financially it would be a huge hit

Me too OP! Wanted a third while the second was still tiny. OH worked away so much for the next few years that it never happened. Now I'm also 43 nearly 44, libido higher than ever (OH seems to have lost his) and he's off for the snip, so it'll never happen.

Op I really think it's a menopausal thing. I have 2 teens but at 43/44 I was suddenly desperate to be pregnant. it will pass.

I'm now 49. You just don't know how long your life will be. Retirement's meant to be the best time- travelling, being selfish and just being. I want to bring that time forward, not stressing over another teen in my 60's.

We have 4 ( last 2 unplanned). It is more than enough ! I am constantly worried about coping financially with Uni years etc and last one will be going to Uni when I am nearly 60. Scary times.

I have 4 teenagers and I would have loved to have one or two more now. I think it's a hormone thing too.