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to be peeved with Dh????

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Nemo2007 · 15/02/2007 18:55

Went out this morning at 10am with all 3 kids. Dh is recently out of work so he got out of bed at 9.30am. DD2s nappy had leaked onto our bed so I asked him if he could change the sheet while I was out. Came home at 4pm to find he had done the ironing[about 1hrs worth] but nothing else at all in the house including the sheet or even bringing down the bottles from DD2. So I went and changed the sheet, washed bottles, put steriliser on and made tea for DS and DD1. Fed them tidied up folded some washing put their pjs on etc etc and he just sat there watching tv. now we had already rowed before I went out about his attitude towards DS who he had shouted at for nothing. So of course was trying to bite my lip but he just got on my nerves to the point where I am ready to flip. I told him he was being lazy and he has now got a cob on so I put the kids to bed and have just put oven on for our tea.I am seething but trying not to explode as am aware that I am also depressed at the min..so if this was you would you be peeved????????????

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mumtogusnalbie · 15/02/2007 19:02

Nemo2007 - yes I totally understand that you would be peeved at this. When my husband still lived with us and was out of work, it was like having a third child. He never really did any housework but did cook sometimes. However on the nights when he did cook it looked like a bomb had gone off in the kitchen so it was probably more trouble than its worth!! He was suffering from depression though but its still tough to be doing all the work while they sit on the sofa and watch tv. I hope he sorts himself soon and good luck to you both.

lulumama · 15/02/2007 19:02

i would be peeved, nemo, and i know you are having a really hard time

is there any chance your DH is also depressed, esp re being out of work ? and therefore a bit lacking in motivation?

threelittlesnowdrops · 15/02/2007 19:02

Err yes I absolutely would- so no, you are not being unreasonable. Hang in there, count to 10 etc...

Heavenis · 15/02/2007 19:04

Yes I wouldn't be pleased either.

I know that men don't see things that need doing but when you have asked them.

Next time make a list of things you'd like to be done.

If he's at home then he needs to pull his weight IME.

Nemo2007 · 15/02/2007 19:16

Lulu I do think he is depressed but he would never do anything about it.He says it is just job related.

Am glad it isnt just me as I have to check Im not just over sensitive.,

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Aimsmum · 15/02/2007 19:20

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ScoobyDooooo · 15/02/2007 19:20

Oh believe me i know exactly how you feel & no you are nt over reacting i would be mighty peed off especially as the things you asked him to do would have taken 15 mins max.

lulumama · 15/02/2007 19:40

well, here;s hoping he gets a new job PDQ...poor you x

Jaamy · 18/02/2007 22:03

Oh Nemo - just seen this.

So sorry your day ended that way, after such a lovely time (well I had a nice time anyway and J was asking for C all the rest of the day!)

Please don't let this stop you going out again, you need to get out and about fro yourself and DCs. Has DH got any close friends you could ask to try to persuade him to go to see the doctor or get some counselling? Or even just chat to him?

Hally2020 · 06/05/2019 01:03

When my husband gets through the door on a Friday afternoon, I could draw a chalk marking round his as he barely moves. Toilet, Coffee and if easy to get to maybe a snack. I point out that he never moves over the weekend and he attacks me verbally because he actually goes to work and I just run the house! 😠😠😠

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