To stop helping with this school run?

[NorthStarGrassman]

I have been doing the school run with my friend's ds (let's call him Bob) since September. Bob's younger sibling was very poorly over the summer, lots of trips to hospital and my friend was understandably very stressed, so I offered the school run to give them one less thing to worry about and was happy to do so.

However, it's now getting close to the Christmas holidays and there has been no mention of stopping this arrangement or asking whether i'm happy to continue. Things are a lot more settled for my friend, there is still the odd appointment but the sibling is much better. Her dp is around a lot and they manage to get Bob's middle sibling to preschool and back every day. Frankly, I want to stop. It's a mild inconvenience to me in that it takes a bit of time to pick up and drop off Bob but the main problem is that Bob and my younger dc (who are the same age) keep ganging up on my older dc. Nothing major but I am constantly having to police them and it's exhausting. Plus I feel sorry for older dc who is getting very fed up.

AIBU to say I can't carry on after Christmas? I feel really bad about it as I know my friend has been through a tough time and she is always thanking me so I don't feel like it's not appreciated. Can't decide if I am being really mean or my friend is being a bit unreasonable.

Thanks for all your replies. I'm glad the general consensus is that IANBU to stop! I know I don't have to give notice as such but I would feel awful just ringing up and saying i'm not doing Monday after they've relied on me all term. I'm starting to suspect that as I'm making their lIves quite a bit easier they don't want to rock the boat and are hoping to string it out as long as possible.

I'd like to stress I don't blame Bob in any way and it definitely isn't bullying. Maybe ganging up was the wrong choice of words. Just very normal sibling stuff like wanting to walk in front of the other but of course younger dc always has Bob on her side and older one feels left out. There is a 4 year age gap and the younger ones do lots of giggling and messing around that the older one finds really annoying. If older dc was getting properly upset I'd have stopped a long time ago.

Just tell them that their child is disruptive and you won't be giving them a lift any longer. You feel that you are being taken advantage of but the other parent probably has no idea you feel this way, so speak to them and demand they pull their weight - if you take their child to school, they should return the favour.

Tell them that after Christmas you need them to take your child to school "for a few weeks". If they refuse, you can tell them to forget about getting any help from you again! If they agree, then let the "few weeks" slide into a few months and see if they ever say anything about it.

If they are intentionally taking advantage of you, you'll hear about it soon enough when the boot is on the other foot!

Just say that you noticed things are less stressful for you, so as from next term, you will no longer do the school run.

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