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AIBU?

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To put the kybosh on colleague

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Myusernameismyusername · 24/11/2016 22:26

Someone is applying for a job internally and it would mean I would be working closely with this person. I am above them in hierarchy.

I do not think this person is right for the job. I'm not sure yet if I will be on interview panel but it is likely.

There are various reasons for this feeling, inexperience being one but the other more difficult one to pin point is what I would call a bad vibe.

I just don't like or trust this person from what I have seen, I think they always seem to have some motive for doing things and have a big unnecessary gob. I think I have a good instinct for whether someone is a good influence or a bad one and this person seems to edge on bad. But nothing specific in examples, just more of a feeling. I think they want this job mostly for egotistical reasons although I think would not mess the job up necessarily, I think they would push all the boundaries and drive me bonkers. It already happens now, and I find myself being pushed by this person although I am perfectly able to deal with it, it just doesn't feel right.

I probably could influence the interview panel easily, but I don't know if this is morally a wrong thing to do.
I'm not just thinking about me I am thinking about the workplace as a whole.
I will have to give instructions/directions to this person, as I do on some level now, and think it would involve them going off piste or being bloody annoying about it.

AIBU? What's the etiquette

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AddictedtoLove · 25/11/2016 15:52

From the title of your thread, and your 1st post, YABU

You've since offered a bit more evidence in subsequent posts, but frankly, your attitude doesn't sound very professional.

lasttimeround · 26/11/2016 14:44

I do get that thing about certain personality types that are constantly striving and overstepping.

Myusernameismyusername · 26/11/2016 14:52

I think there is a difference between my behaviour and the thoughts in my head Addicted. I might dream of having a million quid but I am not going to rob a bank to get it. I don't like someone, I'm going to work out why, what to do about it instead of just pretending I didn't see or hear any of the things that made me feel this way, or intentionally treating them badly. However much I would like to march up to my manager and say say what I have said on here, it's pretty unlikely so I can conclude all the people who have Jumped to their own conclusions such as immature, need to grow up, scared of the person, anxious about my job, unprofessional etc aren't exactly exemplary behaved individuals themselves and have made the exact same judgments about me as I have this person...

I think it's dead now anyway- someone got there before me, nothing much seems to have happened since.

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ChuckGravestones · 26/11/2016 15:27

How would you like it if you were highly qualified for a role, but didn't get it because someone "had a feeling" about you?

Ha ha ha - that's the point of interviews! Otherwise people would recruit based on paper.

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