AIBU to not have any more play dates?

[Ihatethedailymail1]

My dd is 7 and my ds is 6 and the friend of my dd has just gone home and I have left my two kids downstairs and escapes for some peace in my bedroom. The play dates always end up with screaming, running around, dd and friend not letting ds in the bedroom and him banging the door and me shouting come down and then at dinner there is over the top giggling, messing about, shouting and general disorder. Then more shouting, giggling, dancing at the top of their voices. Nothing really naughty per se but just so LOUD and irritating! No actual fighting or breaking things or naughtiness, just contact silliness.
AIBU in expecting play dates to be regular playing like they do when it's just them with no friends? I tell them to keep it down and tell them off if there is actual naughtiness like hitting or name calling, but I feel I can't tell them off properly like I would if it was just them, as I will embarrass the kids for being shouty and I'd look mean to their friends.
I just hate the racket and chaos!

I hate them too, more for the fact that we live in a maisonette with little room, so having 2 DC myself (5 and 3) and then adding in another 5/6 year old, it can get crazy very quickly.

It seems that most of the kids my son goes to school with have huge houses with an upstairs and downstairs and big gardens that you can throw the doors open from the kitchen and let them rampage about. My tiny strip of garden is accessed down a steep and precarious flight of stairs..not child friendly in the least, and once they have managed to kick every football we own over the neighbours fence, there isn't a lot more to do out there

I have tried to suggest things for them to do, but ultimately it ends up with every toy being flung about, and my DD who is 3 squawking because the boys don't want her to play with them.

I clock watch for pick up time, and then pour myself a large glass of Pinot....