to think that he is taking the utter P**s at the minute?

[Radley]

I am so angry, I'm a gnats cockhair away from leaving.

This morning I was woken to dd2 screaming because dd1 had accidentally trapped her finger in the door. DH (Just come in from nights) carried dd2 in the bedroom and when I asked what was wrong, instead of just explaining to me he started shouting and bawling at me what had happened, I told him not to speak to me like that and he carried on and started shouting that he has got what I've been ill for over a week with (bad chest and ear infection,. still shouting and bawling at this point. So I walked out of the room

I went downstairs to try and console dd2 and he was sat upstairs on the bed with his head in his hands huffing and puffing etc.

So, this morning I've had to come down and

Get DD1's uniform ready
Do DD1's packed lunch
Do both their breakfasts
Unload dishwasher

All whilst consoling dd2 again Inbetween.

Bearing in mind, this week when I have been off ill, looking after both myself and dd2 who has had the same, all he has done is take dd1 to school, pick her up and go into town for a couple of bits (he spent most of the time in the bookies).

He has changed his shifts so he is working 4 nights instead of 4 days so that he can take dd1 to school etc, but he is acting like the martyr now and bringing it up at every opportunity, he said it was to help me during the day too, but he goes to bed at 9 and that is that last we see of him till 5 as my mate has picked dd1 up

I've had to do most of the packed lunches
Done all the uniforms
Do the kids teas (otherwise it would be chips)
Done all the washing, hanging it out etc.
Tidied round living room and kitchen and landing etc vacced
Made sure all his uniform is washed and dried etc.
Vacuumed

He hasn't so much as made me a cup of tea

He has now gone out of the back door chuntering that 'I've' not put her gym kit her bag

It's being months since I've been so angry I could cry and that is how I feel right now, my kitten won't come near me as I shouted at him whilst in the kitchen running round because I was tripping over him.

I'm so miserable.

You're not being unreasonable, no-one deserves to be spoken to like that. I work 12hr nights so know how irritable a person can be, especially after a busy or challengin night. I do my fair share of quiet seething and growling but I never shout at DH. I also do everything to prepare DS for going to my mums and nursery when I'm dayshift.

It's good he changed his shifts but it sounds like when my DH takes a week off to help. He has a nice long lie-in, sits in bed for a while having breakfast and eventually gets up and watches telly with DS. Then gets on with chores in the afternoon. Wait till he's had a good sleep then speak to him. If he's still acting like a huffy teenager then wait till he's asleep tomorrow and slap a wax strip on his back. Rip it off then tell him thats how you feel when he shouts.

And I've been doing hard manual work whilst being choked with the cold, so tell him to stop moaning about his man flu and get over it. A few sudafed and he'll be fine.

Hugs to you though.

You need to sit down with him and both of you talk calmly about what is bothering you both and how you can sort things out. It's a tricky thing to do but point scoring is never a way to sort things. You are both angry, have a hug though {{{{hug}}}}}}