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Original poster

To think if I want a mirena coil removed, it should be removed?

294 replies

Momentumista · 24/11/2016 12:38

I had the Hmm face 'well...no I don't think we'd want to be removing it yet' routine when make appt to ask. Was told 'Come back in 6 months when it's settled'... etc etc

This is not a 'how was the coil for you' thread as I know some people love it and swear by it, but really I know my own body by now and I know how I feel and I was

(a) crazy;
(b) gaining weight while eating the same;
(c) spotty as hell (really nasty acne);
(d) depressed;
(e) migraines;
(f) just feeling really heavy and uncomfortable.

And yet while presenting all of these symptoms I get told they will settle and migraines are not dangerous.

I pulled the bloody thing out myself and am already feeling better (1 week on) and skin is clearing, and lo and behold the jeans I could not get anywhere near done up are now done up. Hmm

I am really disappointed not to have been listened to though. WIBU to take matters into my own hands?

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 24/11/2016 18:11

I started taking the pill on Saturday. I had to stop by Monday. Agonising tummy pains.

Dh went to the doctors Tuesday to see if they would consider a vasectomy

Despite only being 25, the doctor was all too keen to refer him

Owllady · 24/11/2016 18:13

God I'm just skim reading the thread! Shock I love my gyneacologist Blush
I do hAve gynae issues though but at 38 he's allowing me to have an ablation
Women need to be listened to. We aren't cattle

KittyandTeal · 24/11/2016 18:16

I'm finding this very interesting.

I have endometriosis and have lost 2 babies. I don't want any more pregnancies but I also need something for my endo.

I had a merina before and it worked well, minor symptoms, but then I was also on mood stabilisers.

This time I queried at 6 weeks after constant bleeding, bloating and low moods. Told to wait for it to settle. Well my periods are regular, they are less painful but no less heavy. My mood is utterly awful. I generally want to murder someone on a daily basis for about 2 weeks of the month.

I have an appointment on Monday to ask for it out. If they refuse I will be feeling them either they do it or I'll do it myself. Damage to my uterus doesn't bother me too much as it's bloody useless.

I'm also going to enquire about a hysterectomy but I know the answer will be no.

daisiesinherfootsteps · 24/11/2016 18:21

I removed it myself too. It's awkward to get hold of the wires but once you do it comes with a gentle tug. I can't see how you could damage yourself (other than pulling a muscle from the contortions of reaching!) All the horrible side effects lifted within a couple of weeks.

Owllady · 24/11/2016 18:21

I felt murderous as well. Some bloke pipped his horn at me because I waited for an ambulance to pass so I got out and tapped on his window and said if he wanted a medical emergency I could quite easily arrange it for him Confused I'm surprised I wasn't arrested. I'm so steady normally.
Mind you I was a middle ages woman in a cardigan. He was most probably shocked more than scared

KittyandTeal · 24/11/2016 18:24

Good to know. I will definitely be doing it myself if they refuse (tempted to have a go now)

SerialReJoiner · 24/11/2016 18:26

Good on you for taking your health into your own hands. I had a Mirena that fell out on its own after a few months. Shock I don't remember any horrendous side-effects but that in itself put me off trying the coil again!

NoelHeadbands · 24/11/2016 18:30

Mine fell out after six weeks, well I say fell- it actually rode the wave of the middle of a humongous clot (there's lovely) and I was so pleased

Referred after that for an ablation, and that has been life changing.

Owllady · 24/11/2016 18:36

Has it Noel? I'm worried about having a GA as I've had all my other hysteroscopies under local (or not)
But I'm just so bloody Fed up, I can't wait

TrionicLettuce · 24/11/2016 18:48

An incredibly patronising gynae consultant tried to bully me into having a Mirena in place of an endometrial ablation because at 28 I was "too young" to make permanent decisions about my fertility Angry

I'd been referred by my (female) GP because my periods were a fucking horror show. She agreed right off the bat that the Mirena wasn't worth risking as I get migraines anyway and I've reacted very badly to anything hormonal I've taken in the past.

It's taken a further five years (and DH getting a vasectomy) to actually find a consultant who would do the sodding ablation because of my age and the fact I don't have children. My life has been completely ruled by my periods and I've had to fight tooth and nail just to get the treatment which will hopefully allow me to live like a normal person again. It's fucking ridiculous.

I've had one ablation which hasn't worked as well as I'd hoped so I'm now debating wether to go for a second or just say fuck it and have the whole damn lot taken out.

Owllady · 24/11/2016 18:53

God trionic, poor you :(

NoelHeadbands · 24/11/2016 20:31

Trionic that's rubbish Sad

Owllady, from my own experience I can only say good things about the ablation. The procedure itself was so quick, I checked in at reception at 7am and was being woken up by a nurse at 8:30. Bit tender and sleepy for the rest of the day and right as rain the day after.

The ablation was three years ago this January and I haven't had a period since. After over twenty five years of irregular, exhausting, stupidly heavy periods I now get slightly tender boobs and a vaguely brown discharge for two or three days a month. That's it.

KittyandTeal · 24/11/2016 20:38

This might be a bit of a dumb question; what is an ablation? Would it be something that might cure my endometriosis? Does it stop you getting pregnant?

I'd just like some options to discus with my gp that aren't hormonal (think I'm very sensitive to hormones now)

Lightthelittlelights · 24/11/2016 20:40

HOW are you all getting referrals for sterilisation and vasectomies!!

Please someone tell me because my GP refuses to refer me. Is there some way of finding out if your PCT is willing to dund

expatinscotland · 24/11/2016 20:44

Get another GP or go to a FPC.

Lightthelittlelights · 24/11/2016 20:49

I've just googled. Our PCT is finding them as they are "of little to no clinical value and can be replaced with long term contraception" Angry. Four children and awful reactions to hormones and still I can't have one.

Lightthelittlelights · 24/11/2016 20:50

Isn't funding

expatinscotland · 24/11/2016 20:51

A private vasectomy is fairly cheap.

Owllady · 24/11/2016 20:58

You have four children and you have severe reactions to hormonal contraception you are a candidate for sterilisation. You need to be firm.

an ablation takes awaybthe lining of the womb but you are still fertile so you have to use barrier contraception.

i have submucosal fibroids (many) so will still bleed apparently. If you have endo you need a gynae input?

Thanks noel :-) i am glad it worked for you x

redexpat · 24/11/2016 20:59

Yabu. Women cant be trusted to make informed decisions about their bodies. Hmm

I got my implant taken out after a year of pretty constant bleeding. It was dismissed as spotting by the consultant with a patronising smile. Then the gp did the training and he took it out for me. Lovely man.

Wtf is an ablation?

Owllady · 24/11/2016 21:03

Kitty if you still want children you can't have an ablation. My gynae said it is unusual go offer to under 40s but i have a 17, 15 and 9 yr old and i am still married to their dad at 38, plus I care for a severely disabled child and they weigh it all up. I suppose

i can't leave the house when i have a period though. It's like open day at the abbatoir

RoseGoldHippie · 24/11/2016 21:09

OP I had the same issue with the implant. Had it in a year but didn't get on with it. I had to beg the, to take it out!

How old are you? I think my age had a serious impact as I was like 20. They kept asking me how I would cope with a baby etc and I think my age had a lot to do with it!

They did take it out but I left half my dignity in that office from the pleading!

NoelHeadbands · 24/11/2016 21:10

I was 39 when I had mine, but my husband had already had a vasectomy so my child bearing days were over.

Soubriquet · 24/11/2016 21:13

We got lucky with our vasectomy referral

Dh put his foot down and was adamant he needed it

His points was:-

He has two children
He does not want any more
I can't tolerate artificial hormones
Pregnancy has already mucked my body up. One more could do worse damage.
I've been pregnant 6 times (4 miscarriages)

Our doctor was quite supportive

Apparently around here they want more young men to get a vasectomy if they want one

Owllady · 24/11/2016 21:20

I wish my husband would get a vasectomy but that's another thread. He actually went to the Dr and they refused because he was 38 ffs now he is 46 and wont go to the dr at all. It is a good job they took my mirena out because just typing that out makes me feel like doing a diy job, it must be the 'localised progesterone' left in my body..