Xmas decorations wibu?

[festiveleadballoon]

We usually start putting up the decorations and tree from the 1st December but yesterday I got a few bits down from the attic after nipping up there for something else I needed. I'm not getting a tree until the end of next week but I thought I'd put the Xmas throws on the sofa, tinsel wrapped round things, a few Xmas light up snowmen ornament things and a set of lights around the window in the living room Just to make things cosy and festive. It's was on a whim and I just thought sod it and the kids thought it was exciting and fun. I suffer from pnd and had one of those really really exhausting times this week trying to wallow on through with school runs and housework while feeling like I just want to hide under the duvet until the feeling goes away. DH is so lovely and supportive and knows I've had a rough week . He really is wonderful with how he understands what I'm going through and how I struggle sometimes. He knows my favourite thing to do when I'm feeling really down is to just cuddle up on the sofa with a coffee and a book or a glass of wine. I was looking forward to doing this once I had got the kids to bed and looking forward to this on a night helps me keep motivated to tidy up and do housework throughout the day iyswim . Anyway he came in from work as I was putting the kids to bed and me and dd started giggling saying "wait for it when daddy sees the Xmas lights do you think he will be surprised!?" ... so we were giggling as he came up stairs expecting him to laugh at us and say how nice and cosy the room looked as he loves Xmas and always says he looks forward to me trimming up. Instead he walks in and says " what's the hells going on? Why is all Xmas stuff up downstairs it's November!!" ... so I explained it's only a week off before December and he went mad saying he's fed up of seeing everyone's trees and trimmings up everywhere it's ridiculous and looks tacky. DD got quite upset at the thought we would have to take them down. When I went downstairs he had also taken down some tinsel that I had hung over some shelves in the kitchen and just dumped it on the side. Then he went in the room and turned the lights off in the window just going on about how he can't believe what I've done. It was just so out of character for him I was really shocked and hurt at the things he was saying like it was a massive deal and like I'd ruined Xmas. I don't know I just expected him to come in and laugh and call me daft "but as long as it helps you and cheers you up a bit" is what he would usually say. It just seemed as though I'd done something so so wrong his reaction was just so excessive and out of character. There really is worse things in the world going on right now other than putting up a few lights a week before usual. Aibu?

[seventhgonickname]

The family who live opposite us put their lights last night so we have a mass of coloured fashing lights in until 11pm last night!

[wannabestressfree]

I think its really mean to say 'its to early' or 'not in November'. We all have different ideals over Christmas. For me its been a terrible year and I am really keen for some festive cheer. The lights make me happy and I have a little village. I am waiting for the tree but I do things bit by bit.
I also love tinsel and 'The Range' style tatt :}

[Yura]

maybe he had really looked forward to it/ wanted to do it together? it would make me majorly grumpy if my husband would gave done it early for these reasons!

[attheendoftheday]

The issue is not whether you choose to put decorations up early, but rather that he didn't speak nicely to you and thinks he has more right to dictate what is in the house than you do.

He is BU for those reasons.

[jumpjumpformylove]

I know it makes you feel better, and I understand why, so for next year, how about introducing some "winter decor" from October onwards; candles, fairy lights, soft throws and cushions etc. instead of snowmen and Christmas themed things? Those could wait until December (It's Christmas Eve in my house!!) but your house could be cosied up and made to feel more welcoming as soon as the clocks go back?

Tinsel on the kitchen shelves would definitely feel OTT to me, in November!

[winterisnigh]

Op it sounds more like he had a bad day and took it out on the decs. Its not something to get bad tempered about.