Hi everyone, I'm new here but have been reading the threads with interest, lots of good advice.
I'm off work today and am getting myself worked up because my DH does not tidy up after himself. He will do the odd wash and will put my clothes in too, and we take it in turns to do dishes. He will let them pile up so our (very small) kitchen is full of dirty dishes before they get done.
In our bedroom his clothes are all on the floor next to his bedside, where he takes them off the night before. I have to step all over them to close and open the curtains. I've gone through periods where I've picked them up because it grates on me so much, but then I think why should I?! He's a grown man!
He smokes rollies and there is ash and tobacco all on the floor and table in the dining room. I feel like he has no respect for the place!! We don't have kids but are ttc, he says he's giving up soon but if he doesn't I worry about having a little one crawling around!
Other than this he is a very caring and sweet husband, and sometimes I think there are worse things we could be arguing about. But this gives me anxiety, I'd be ashamed if a neighbour or friend popped round unannounced, and tend to see friends outside of the house rather than invite them over, unless I've had chance to tidy up.
AIBU, and if not how can I deal with this?!