"My little man crush" said to my 2 year old.

[Sweetyc]

AIBU to dislike this saying? I know it's like 'woman crush' to women who are heterosexual, etc. but I just don't like it.

Is it something that would bother you?

Anything containing 'little man' is hideous. At least it's not 'lil' man'.
Cringe

Cum shot in pornography.

Sometimes now used to mean any important shot (at least I hope what the person meant, or that was a wedding reception like no other). But it's still pretty jarring and usually inappropriate

It's repulsive.

Oh bloody hell. It's harmless. It's your sister. YABU. She's not implying she wants to bed your DS, just that he's probably handsome and she adores him. I find the problem is many of you place sexual connotations where they weren't implied. The word 'crush' itself is usually used to describe an innocent infatuation, usually during childhood when we have no proper understanding of sex.

'Creeping sexualisation of language...' rolls eyes

Yeah, it's cute when family calls him that way. But from a stranger? Definitely not.

In this case it's your sister attempting to be cute. Just slightly irritating.

AuntieStella oh god! That is so grim (so confused I didn't work that one out haha!)

Lets just hope they meant something else!

'Creeping sexualisation of language' - oh please. A crush is as innocent as it gets. My dd has a crush on her teacher...she's seven. I'm pretty certain she's not looking to have sex with him.

If you see sexualisation in the term crush, then I'd say that's your problem and nothing to do with reality.

The problem with rolling eyes at what seem like little things is that they can add up and become big things while you're not watching......

We used to joke that ds had a massive crush on Elsa

Because whenever she came on the tv, he would stop and stare at her.

Didn't mean anything by it. He was too young to understand.

We said the same thing about dd and Mr Tumble.

She's 3 now and doesn't know what we used to say

I'm always a little by these kind of threads...
Your sister is using a phrase that I wouldn't use but is showing kindness & affection to your son.
It's not like she's made dinner reservations for them and is twirling her hair at him

Bertrand every little thing in this life has the potential to become a big thing.

I can safely say this scenario given by the OP will not become anything more. Unless you are the type of person to start worrying that the sister's affection means she could potentially kidnap him one day and the OP will look back and OMG the signs were there!!! If that is the case, you would be very troubled person because, although possible, this scenario isn't very probable is it?

People need to chill out, I swear

It's not the OP's sister I am talking about.

It's the use of language.

Oh fgs It's your sister, unless you think she actually has a crush on him and wants to date him stop being so ridiculous.

I think kids having crushes on characters or older people is OK, it's kind of sweet and innocent when they don't know what it means. But for an adult to describe having a crush on a child I find it kind of creepy. If my sister said she had a crush on DS I'd ask her not to say that again.

I also really dislike people talking about going on 'dates' with their kids. I was having dinner with DS in a restaurant and someone said to him "Ooh, taking Mum on a date are you?" I could barely finish my meal! I do not need or want to date my son! Whatever happens to us just having a day out and a nice meal?!

Kids grow up quickly enough, we don't need to start sexualising them even earlier and I see adults talking about having crushes on or dating their kids and it just turns my stomach.

OP YANBU.

I thought we'd moved on to talking generally about the language we use about children rather than the OP's sister specifically? I don't think for a moment that the OP's sister is sexualizing her nephew.

I do think that as a society we should be thinking about the way we talk about children, the clothes we dress them in and the behaviours we encourage.

It's a bit twee, but as it's coming from your sister it's harmless. Coming from a complete stranger it would be strange.

Betrand I'm not here to argue but let me explain my pov.

From my seat, the word 'crush' is infatuation. Adoration. When I was younger I crushed. When I knew about sex, I'd lust. Lust and crush aren't the same. Imo, of course.

When a person takes issue with people over language, the problem is (as we are demonstrating here) that definitions can be loose and vary.

Agree with you Jay

Excellent post jay

"It's a bit twee, but as it's coming from your sister it's harmless. Coming from a complete stranger it would be strange."

Why?

Your not unreasonable to dislike a saying but no harm was meant by it

From my seat, the word 'crush' is infatuation

That is the dictionary definition too.

I don't think I would be bothered by it to be honest.

I know someone who calls her baby boy sexy. This I don't like.