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To think the CMS should fucking chase maintenance?

35 replies

GinAndSonic · 22/11/2016 14:07

CMS have had some kind of system based cock up on my claim, meaning until it's unfunded nobody is allowed to do anything regarding it INCLUDING doing something about the fact the my ex has decided to pay less per month than he ought to pay per week.
Literally was just told "even if he stopped paying there's nothing we could do about it right now"
Aibu to think this is fucking shit?

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Travis1 · 12/02/2019 09:47

@Emma271182 you ok hun?

Greywalls12 · 12/02/2019 10:00

It's pseudo, and it's a seizure cause by psychological reasons, rather than epilepsy etc.
We used to have a recurrent attender to a&e who would have these, but hers were for attention where she was actually faking the seizure as well.

Emma271182 · 12/02/2019 12:52

I'm ok, it's the rest of these basket cases. Oh and sorry I offended you with a hurried spelling mistake Greywalls, I came here for advice not to vetted over spelling.
As for that gunpowder idiot, you have no idea how he has been treated by this system, and yes he does pay for his son. So if you have nothing of interest to say and are going to insist on being a troll, I will just report you for abuse.

Emma271182 · 12/02/2019 12:59

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 12/02/2019 13:03

Why add all that vitriole to a 2 year old thread?

Weird!

Emma271182 · 12/02/2019 13:13

You know what, there is no one here that has said a helpful word.

And you don't find that weired? No? ..
Well that's mum's net for you I suppose, only there to help woman bitch about there ex partners, extort and slate the person they chose to lay down with and opened there legs to! But no.. low and behold some one comes out and says what we're all thinking, but yet I'm the bad person? Well you know what they say about true colours and all that.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 12/02/2019 13:18

Emma Start your own thread!

That way you will get people responding to YOU and YOUR POINT!

As it is all you have done is raised an old thread, been very shouty about something and rude to/about posters who haven't even read your post! That is what is weird!

If you haven't because you can't find the new post button, it is at the top, on the left, when you are in the Topic, not in a thread.

Deep breath, start a new post and see what responses you get to the issue you want to raise!

GunpowderGelatine · 12/02/2019 13:32

@Emma271182

Firstly, calm the fuck down. No one is going to give you words of support when you use phrases like "opened her legs" - I hate to break it to you but you realise men are responsible for creating babies too? Women on here give advice and support, you may hate women (I am making the assumption based on your misogynistic use of words) but not all of us do so won't jump to your OH's defence on your hysterical day-so.

But a few points to your utterly ridiculous post:

my partners ex has been using this site to gain infomation from you creatons to extort the CMS and use it as a weapon to financially damage not only himself but MYSELF AND MY CHILDREN!

Don't make me laugh. RP cannot extort CMS - NRPs can though by going self employed and not declaring their fortune (happens a lot and is a huge loop hole in the system). NRPs - vast majority of whom are men - owe their children £4billion in this country. This pisses many of us off.

I have a son with ASD and my partner is an amazing step father to both of my children, it's not easy for a man to form a bond with children that's not his own let alone a child with Autism

I'm sure you're right but what does this have to do with his ex and maintenance?

TBH I feel sorry for his child he's abandoned in favour of your children - but it happens all the time I guess.

Whoever it is that has been giving her advice should be ashamed of themselves!

Who do you think has been giving her advice on this thread? Or do you thinkMN is a hive mind?

This individual broke up a family home because she was cheating on him (an amazing man!) with a drug dealer! Fact. (I hired a private investigator as I didn't believe him at first)

If you're short of cash why are you chucking money away on this? And it doesn't matter who did what - your OH needs to pay for his child.

She had a child with my partner knowing he had a good job and she would be financially secure

Sounds like good sense to me. Who would have a child with a skint bloke?

To attain click and collect payments, and has now got the CMS demanding in excess of over £200 per week for a child he hasn't seen in two and a half years!

In that case he must be bloody loaded!! So he earns around £1k per week? So why can't he see his mum? And Why doesn't he see his child?

He is devastated and now has lost a career of 16 years!

He lost his job over this maintenance issue? How?

low and behold some one comes out and says what we're all thinking, but yet I'm the bad person? Well you know what they say about true co

Literally no one agrees with you

So to summarise - you think that because he's a good stepdad and his ex had an affair that he doesn't need to pay for or see his child and he played no part in the child being created because apparently women "open their legs"??

sue51 · 12/02/2019 13:43

Emma if you start your own thread and give proper details rather than ranting, you might get some help.

mattingly123 · 08/05/2019 11:08

They are Shit. The law needs to change and get tougher and come down harder on these dad's and by harder I mean a sledgehammer, I have literally lost all hope. Fathers get away with everything while we do everything, there will be a mass suicide of single mothers before long, we cannot keep up doing everything whilst they waltz around with no punishment, I'm like you I am literally run into the ground, someone could shit on me right now and I wouldn't care, I'm literally that down about the whole thing, yet were supposed to be able to function properly, work and take care of our kids emotionally and financially.its a fuckin man's world..the cms could get things done quicker, I'm adiment of that..If you heard the recordings I have they are all completely outrageous, same questions asked all the time, threats to my ex not being followed through on time, being told different things over and over. When I've got more energy and I'm not so depressed I'm going to the news about this for every single mother who's going through this because it is inhumane and disgusting, our kids are being put on the poverty line and it needs to stop

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