When my baby was new born, my Dad used to phone the mobile, and when I couldn't or didn't answer, he would ring the landline. This was usually around 8pm when I'd just got the little one to bed (he was a bad sleeper) and it would usually wake him and I would have spend another 30-40 minutes trying to settle him again.
My Dad works hard and is a loving Dad, and I really appreciate that he cares enough to call, but I asked if he would mind not calling the landline after say 7pm as it wakes the baby. I said if he called the mobile, and I didn't or couldn't answer, I'd phone him back when I could that evening, and to only phone the landline late if it was an emergency. However, he did the same again a few more times, and I kept politely asking him not to, until I became really short with him on the phone. He sounded upset and said that the baby would have to get used to sleeping through noise and that he only wanted to make sure we were ok.
I felt guilty and the evening landline calls stopped...until now. I have a good relationship with Dad, he will babaysit whenever needed and now my little one has just turned 2, he has just called the landline again but gone 10pm. I have been up since 4am and so got an early night. The whole house was asleep so I shot out of bed to answer the landline, only to find that he had just finished work and wanted a chat about a text I sent at 10am (that didn't require a reply).
Sorry it's a long story, but to cut to the chase, AIBU to think 10pm is too late to call for a chat?
My husband and I work and we have a toddler so we're shattered most of the time! I was short with him again, as it wasn't an emergency, and I had just been woken up. But it's now playing on my mind as I clearly upset him by asking him not to call at 10pm again.