To be a bit upset that my parents didn't make a fuss of my 40th?

[Mebee]

Just that really, I've always been really big into birthdays and love a fuss being made to celebrate. I'm the same with others, love to make their day special.

However I turned 40 a couple of months ago and all I got was a card with some cash through the door the day before my birthday at 6am on the Sunday. They didn't even knock on the door.

Both my mum and dad text me on the day to wish me happy birthday but no presents or offer to take me out. (When it was dhs birthday they came round with wrapped gifts etc)

I was a little upset so asked if they'd like to take me out for a meal, they said yes but then never mentioned it again.

What's made it worse is that I saw on FB that they had taken out a girl for a posh meal this week as she's just turned 30. Balloons and presents - the lot! They've only known her 3 years so I found it quite upsetting.

Aibu?

Some people are missing that they made more effort for your DH

My elderly mother has only just stopped sending flowers and balloons on the day! She doesn't shop online and I told her I didn't like her stressing out and driving round to find somewhere. I think op folks have been pants frankly.

And the poster who was very ill....that's a factor in people making a deal of my 40th as well. I don't think it's generational either. Op talk to them, maybe they thought you wouldn't want fuss? I don't know.

SOunds like your DM has an alcohol problem.

Thanks lorelei, I do want to say something but don't want it to be confrontational and cause an argument.

Dm yes I think she has a problem and so does my dad. He's tried to speak to her about her drinking but she gets aggressive with him after a couple!

Dozer not dm!

YANBU. Clearly they are self absorbed as you rarely hear from them. DM also has other issues. Also clear that they favour certain people. None of these things are your fault. Maybe try to accept their limitations and not rely on them for providing what you want/need?
PS I'm being politely it's shitsville, and the 6am thing WTAF??!