To feel abused?

[malificent7]

Went out last night with dp. Left dd 8 with lovely sitters and one of her best mates.
This morning ive been told that im a shit mum, the outfit i was wearing was shit and didnt look good and btw could she keep the cape i was wearing.

When i said no she said i was a shite mum before.

I would feel hurt if an adult said this.. aibu to tell her she knows where the door is if she thinks im a shit mum?

I do my best. Im not the perfect mum but i work bloody hard to keep her clothed and a roof over our heads.

I think she's annoyed i went out without her.

Cheeky mare, I have a 9 year old and not a chance would I stand for being spoken to like this! What consequences have you given her?

The cheekiness clearly stems from unhappiness. In the OPs othe thread the resentfullness that the DD hasn't embraced the new boyfriend as dad comes across very clearly. It also states they told the children week night dates only so that they would have their parents to themselves at the week end yet that promise meant nothing as it's already been broken.

It never ends well when a child has to play second fiddle to a new partner, parents are supposed to have their child at the heart of everything.

Your daughter is just upset that you didn't take her with you. That you thought you could have a nice evening out without her. That she's not the be all and end all of your world.

You have to accept her being upset at times like this and deal with her accordingly, or you will never be able to go out without her again. But don't tell her she "knows where the door is" unless you are actually prepared to allow her to walk out.

But if you do that, then yes, you are a shit(e) mum!